kyburg: (ebil)
Just got reminded that this Sunday, our little religious social club is voting to become an Open & Affirming congregation.

We would be the first, the VERY first - and only one of its kind - in a 100 mile radius.

Services are at 9:30 AM. Meeting is at 10:30. You're welcome to attend.

It should pass. It has to pass. It MUST pass. Move forward, or die.

(What does 'ONA' mean?)

It's big. Really big.

Cross everything folks.
kyburg: (ebil)
Just got reminded that this Sunday, our little religious social club is voting to become an Open & Affirming congregation.

We would be the first, the VERY first - and only one of its kind - in a 100 mile radius.

Services are at 9:30 AM. Meeting is at 10:30. You're welcome to attend.

It should pass. It has to pass. It MUST pass. Move forward, or die.

(What does 'ONA' mean?)

It's big. Really big.

Cross everything folks.
kyburg: (ebil)
Just got reminded that this Sunday, our little religious social club is voting to become an Open & Affirming congregation.

We would be the first, the VERY first - and only one of its kind - in a 100 mile radius.

Services are at 9:30 AM. Meeting is at 10:30. You're welcome to attend.

It should pass. It has to pass. It MUST pass. Move forward, or die.

(What does 'ONA' mean?)

It's big. Really big.

Cross everything folks.
kyburg: (Default)
And I also just re-upped my paid account for another year, so fear y'all. Why?

Well, for one thing - I'm not subjecting anyone reading this to advertising I have no control over. I'm not making a cent off them, and frankly this isn't worth those cents to read - so no, I'm not going to have ads on this blog, such as it is.

So there.

Google+ is really wearing very thin on the ground here. One, not keeping my interest and two? Sending email to people I didn't ask it to send it to? ARE YOU NUTS.

I've visited their offices here in town. I can do it again, this time without an invitation. Not. Happy.

Looking back, I have to come to the conclusion I interview *exceptionally* well, without trying hard. Or needing a book to tell me what answer to give to silly questions. I've gotten the last five jobs I interviewed for, one try - and I have no idea why I've got the unbroken record.

One, I am humble about what I interview for - I guess - if I don't feel it's a good fit, at some level, I don't apply. That doesn't mean I don't fit a lot of jobs - believe me, that's a goal. The more you can do, the more you will do, so add those skills as fast as you can and update at every opportunity. Are they all jobs that are AWESOME, FUN and AMAZING?

Not a chance. They pay money. I'm a real Edison that way. If it doesn't pay, I'm immediately onto the thing that does. That's my freedom, that's my sense of self, without the income - I'm at the mercy of everyone around me, and that's no bueno. I'll do anything. So maybe I'm motivated. You got me.

If I have time leftover, I make art. Until then, I pay bills and everyone leaves me alone. And I remain a valid human being.

I learned early - if I can't pay my own way, I get what other people think I deserve. And I was not born a wanted child. I like my independence. A lot. I have a very stiff neck and I don't kiss ass worth a toot, so I'd better do something, neh?

At least these days, I'm keeping jobs because I'm not the wife of a type I diabetic. No, really. There's a distinct difference these days. Don't have to like it. Do have to acknowledge it.

I'm not surprised at what's going down in Oakland. People have been saying the police department there is out of control and doing Nasty Things for years now, particularly to people of color. Well, now they're doing it to everyone in one place, just for staying in one place. Not surprised, but now you know.

You think people are going to stop now, you're nuts. They want a job, y'know. If they had someplace to make a living, they'd be there instead. Also just saying.

If you want to complain, fax them a complaint.

And the beat goes on.
kyburg: (Default)
And I also just re-upped my paid account for another year, so fear y'all. Why?

Well, for one thing - I'm not subjecting anyone reading this to advertising I have no control over. I'm not making a cent off them, and frankly this isn't worth those cents to read - so no, I'm not going to have ads on this blog, such as it is.

So there.

Google+ is really wearing very thin on the ground here. One, not keeping my interest and two? Sending email to people I didn't ask it to send it to? ARE YOU NUTS.

I've visited their offices here in town. I can do it again, this time without an invitation. Not. Happy.

Looking back, I have to come to the conclusion I interview *exceptionally* well, without trying hard. Or needing a book to tell me what answer to give to silly questions. I've gotten the last five jobs I interviewed for, one try - and I have no idea why I've got the unbroken record.

One, I am humble about what I interview for - I guess - if I don't feel it's a good fit, at some level, I don't apply. That doesn't mean I don't fit a lot of jobs - believe me, that's a goal. The more you can do, the more you will do, so add those skills as fast as you can and update at every opportunity. Are they all jobs that are AWESOME, FUN and AMAZING?

Not a chance. They pay money. I'm a real Edison that way. If it doesn't pay, I'm immediately onto the thing that does. That's my freedom, that's my sense of self, without the income - I'm at the mercy of everyone around me, and that's no bueno. I'll do anything. So maybe I'm motivated. You got me.

If I have time leftover, I make art. Until then, I pay bills and everyone leaves me alone. And I remain a valid human being.

I learned early - if I can't pay my own way, I get what other people think I deserve. And I was not born a wanted child. I like my independence. A lot. I have a very stiff neck and I don't kiss ass worth a toot, so I'd better do something, neh?

At least these days, I'm keeping jobs because I'm not the wife of a type I diabetic. No, really. There's a distinct difference these days. Don't have to like it. Do have to acknowledge it.

I'm not surprised at what's going down in Oakland. People have been saying the police department there is out of control and doing Nasty Things for years now, particularly to people of color. Well, now they're doing it to everyone in one place, just for staying in one place. Not surprised, but now you know.

You think people are going to stop now, you're nuts. They want a job, y'know. If they had someplace to make a living, they'd be there instead. Also just saying.

If you want to complain, fax them a complaint.

And the beat goes on.
kyburg: (Default)
And I also just re-upped my paid account for another year, so fear y'all. Why?

Well, for one thing - I'm not subjecting anyone reading this to advertising I have no control over. I'm not making a cent off them, and frankly this isn't worth those cents to read - so no, I'm not going to have ads on this blog, such as it is.

So there.

Google+ is really wearing very thin on the ground here. One, not keeping my interest and two? Sending email to people I didn't ask it to send it to? ARE YOU NUTS.

I've visited their offices here in town. I can do it again, this time without an invitation. Not. Happy.

Looking back, I have to come to the conclusion I interview *exceptionally* well, without trying hard. Or needing a book to tell me what answer to give to silly questions. I've gotten the last five jobs I interviewed for, one try - and I have no idea why I've got the unbroken record.

One, I am humble about what I interview for - I guess - if I don't feel it's a good fit, at some level, I don't apply. That doesn't mean I don't fit a lot of jobs - believe me, that's a goal. The more you can do, the more you will do, so add those skills as fast as you can and update at every opportunity. Are they all jobs that are AWESOME, FUN and AMAZING?

Not a chance. They pay money. I'm a real Edison that way. If it doesn't pay, I'm immediately onto the thing that does. That's my freedom, that's my sense of self, without the income - I'm at the mercy of everyone around me, and that's no bueno. I'll do anything. So maybe I'm motivated. You got me.

If I have time leftover, I make art. Until then, I pay bills and everyone leaves me alone. And I remain a valid human being.

I learned early - if I can't pay my own way, I get what other people think I deserve. And I was not born a wanted child. I like my independence. A lot. I have a very stiff neck and I don't kiss ass worth a toot, so I'd better do something, neh?

At least these days, I'm keeping jobs because I'm not the wife of a type I diabetic. No, really. There's a distinct difference these days. Don't have to like it. Do have to acknowledge it.

I'm not surprised at what's going down in Oakland. People have been saying the police department there is out of control and doing Nasty Things for years now, particularly to people of color. Well, now they're doing it to everyone in one place, just for staying in one place. Not surprised, but now you know.

You think people are going to stop now, you're nuts. They want a job, y'know. If they had someplace to make a living, they'd be there instead. Also just saying.

If you want to complain, fax them a complaint.

And the beat goes on.
kyburg: (Default)
I find myself surrounded by a lot of mental illness lately.

This is not surprising, considering the amount of tension and stress the economy/political climate has foisted upon everyone walking around - this is not the 'first world problem' of people moping about disconsolate and unable to get out of bed in the morning depression, however.

This is angry, angry sputtering and slamming of doors, cutting off phone conversations and reactive disconnecting kind of 'depression' - which I don't always think is chemical in nature.

It's situational. Which means, the typical fix of a lot of drugs and very little therapy isn't going to return good results. Responding to stress and suck by getting unhappy seems like a no-brainer, but in today's culture - well, you just can't have that!

And I see a lot of people internalize it until it does manifest as true mental illness.

How do you treat situational depression? Gods, it's in every belief system going back thousands of years - if you hear someone 'got spiritual' and got happy, successfully? Likely they got a piece of it that worked for them. You'll also hear of the 'not easy part.' They ain't kidding.

You just have to let it go. Rewrite that as you wish, but that's the core.

If you're Buddhist, you divest. Attachment to anything only brings torment - divest, divest, divest.
If you're Judaeo/Christian, you give it to God and fuggitaboutit. No take backs, no taking control again. Lillies in the field get bullshit to grow in, don't you know that? You may not like it, but you'll have enough to live - live 'well' maybe not. Acquire contentment with your lot in life.

I see a lot of my Pagan friends conducting rituals, meditation at their altars, etc. - willing to accept the outcome of their offerings, no question. You offer it up and see what the powers bring.

My Hindu friends prayed. What happened after that, happened. They had done what they could.

The atheists? FUCK IT. I give up - I got nothing.

In every case, it's a surrender of your control over everything you have struggled and fought for. Planned on. You just have to let it go.

This is not walking away - don't make that mistake. You just have to take your hands off the wheel and let the car drive itself for a while. That's trust, but sometimes? You don't see the road well enough and the car is smarter than you are.

Knowing that, even if it's not in your conscious mind? Can really piss you off.

You don't go home and lock the door. You don't stop talking to your friends. You don't stop working or looking for another job.

But you do stop forgetting that the sun still rises every morning you live, the stars still shine as brightly regardless of whether life is good for you or not. And you dial your expectations of what you must Be to those very basic things.

Everyone is on your side - they just might not agree with you. Trust me, you want someone honest on your side, cherish the ones who won't put up with nonsense just to shut you up.

It's not fair. Nobody ever said it would be. Fairs are nice things with nummy treats and carnival rides. Don't make 'fair' the be all and end all - you can expect unfairness, and boy I would. Get better at communicating and negotiating instead.

Please learn to recognize grief and allow it. Loss is loss is loss is loss. Let it go.

Anger is a useful emotion, but much more akin to fire than anything else. Properly handled, it will cook your food and light your way. Allow it free rein and nothing survives. Not even it.

You come into this world naked, wet and screaming - going back out anything more? BONUS. Tuck that away somewhere.

Now - get out there and kick some ass and keep moving. It's hard to hit a moving target, after all.

But what sorrows you unto anger and depression? Let it go. Let it alllll go.
kyburg: (Default)
I find myself surrounded by a lot of mental illness lately.

This is not surprising, considering the amount of tension and stress the economy/political climate has foisted upon everyone walking around - this is not the 'first world problem' of people moping about disconsolate and unable to get out of bed in the morning depression, however.

This is angry, angry sputtering and slamming of doors, cutting off phone conversations and reactive disconnecting kind of 'depression' - which I don't always think is chemical in nature.

It's situational. Which means, the typical fix of a lot of drugs and very little therapy isn't going to return good results. Responding to stress and suck by getting unhappy seems like a no-brainer, but in today's culture - well, you just can't have that!

And I see a lot of people internalize it until it does manifest as true mental illness.

How do you treat situational depression? Gods, it's in every belief system going back thousands of years - if you hear someone 'got spiritual' and got happy, successfully? Likely they got a piece of it that worked for them. You'll also hear of the 'not easy part.' They ain't kidding.

You just have to let it go. Rewrite that as you wish, but that's the core.

If you're Buddhist, you divest. Attachment to anything only brings torment - divest, divest, divest.
If you're Judaeo/Christian, you give it to God and fuggitaboutit. No take backs, no taking control again. Lillies in the field get bullshit to grow in, don't you know that? You may not like it, but you'll have enough to live - live 'well' maybe not. Acquire contentment with your lot in life.

I see a lot of my Pagan friends conducting rituals, meditation at their altars, etc. - willing to accept the outcome of their offerings, no question. You offer it up and see what the powers bring.

My Hindu friends prayed. What happened after that, happened. They had done what they could.

The atheists? FUCK IT. I give up - I got nothing.

In every case, it's a surrender of your control over everything you have struggled and fought for. Planned on. You just have to let it go.

This is not walking away - don't make that mistake. You just have to take your hands off the wheel and let the car drive itself for a while. That's trust, but sometimes? You don't see the road well enough and the car is smarter than you are.

Knowing that, even if it's not in your conscious mind? Can really piss you off.

You don't go home and lock the door. You don't stop talking to your friends. You don't stop working or looking for another job.

But you do stop forgetting that the sun still rises every morning you live, the stars still shine as brightly regardless of whether life is good for you or not. And you dial your expectations of what you must Be to those very basic things.

Everyone is on your side - they just might not agree with you. Trust me, you want someone honest on your side, cherish the ones who won't put up with nonsense just to shut you up.

It's not fair. Nobody ever said it would be. Fairs are nice things with nummy treats and carnival rides. Don't make 'fair' the be all and end all - you can expect unfairness, and boy I would. Get better at communicating and negotiating instead.

Please learn to recognize grief and allow it. Loss is loss is loss is loss. Let it go.

Anger is a useful emotion, but much more akin to fire than anything else. Properly handled, it will cook your food and light your way. Allow it free rein and nothing survives. Not even it.

You come into this world naked, wet and screaming - going back out anything more? BONUS. Tuck that away somewhere.

Now - get out there and kick some ass and keep moving. It's hard to hit a moving target, after all.

But what sorrows you unto anger and depression? Let it go. Let it alllll go.
kyburg: (Default)
I find myself surrounded by a lot of mental illness lately.

This is not surprising, considering the amount of tension and stress the economy/political climate has foisted upon everyone walking around - this is not the 'first world problem' of people moping about disconsolate and unable to get out of bed in the morning depression, however.

This is angry, angry sputtering and slamming of doors, cutting off phone conversations and reactive disconnecting kind of 'depression' - which I don't always think is chemical in nature.

It's situational. Which means, the typical fix of a lot of drugs and very little therapy isn't going to return good results. Responding to stress and suck by getting unhappy seems like a no-brainer, but in today's culture - well, you just can't have that!

And I see a lot of people internalize it until it does manifest as true mental illness.

How do you treat situational depression? Gods, it's in every belief system going back thousands of years - if you hear someone 'got spiritual' and got happy, successfully? Likely they got a piece of it that worked for them. You'll also hear of the 'not easy part.' They ain't kidding.

You just have to let it go. Rewrite that as you wish, but that's the core.

If you're Buddhist, you divest. Attachment to anything only brings torment - divest, divest, divest.
If you're Judaeo/Christian, you give it to God and fuggitaboutit. No take backs, no taking control again. Lillies in the field get bullshit to grow in, don't you know that? You may not like it, but you'll have enough to live - live 'well' maybe not. Acquire contentment with your lot in life.

I see a lot of my Pagan friends conducting rituals, meditation at their altars, etc. - willing to accept the outcome of their offerings, no question. You offer it up and see what the powers bring.

My Hindu friends prayed. What happened after that, happened. They had done what they could.

The atheists? FUCK IT. I give up - I got nothing.

In every case, it's a surrender of your control over everything you have struggled and fought for. Planned on. You just have to let it go.

This is not walking away - don't make that mistake. You just have to take your hands off the wheel and let the car drive itself for a while. That's trust, but sometimes? You don't see the road well enough and the car is smarter than you are.

Knowing that, even if it's not in your conscious mind? Can really piss you off.

You don't go home and lock the door. You don't stop talking to your friends. You don't stop working or looking for another job.

But you do stop forgetting that the sun still rises every morning you live, the stars still shine as brightly regardless of whether life is good for you or not. And you dial your expectations of what you must Be to those very basic things.

Everyone is on your side - they just might not agree with you. Trust me, you want someone honest on your side, cherish the ones who won't put up with nonsense just to shut you up.

It's not fair. Nobody ever said it would be. Fairs are nice things with nummy treats and carnival rides. Don't make 'fair' the be all and end all - you can expect unfairness, and boy I would. Get better at communicating and negotiating instead.

Please learn to recognize grief and allow it. Loss is loss is loss is loss. Let it go.

Anger is a useful emotion, but much more akin to fire than anything else. Properly handled, it will cook your food and light your way. Allow it free rein and nothing survives. Not even it.

You come into this world naked, wet and screaming - going back out anything more? BONUS. Tuck that away somewhere.

Now - get out there and kick some ass and keep moving. It's hard to hit a moving target, after all.

But what sorrows you unto anger and depression? Let it go. Let it alllll go.

...

Feb. 23rd, 2011 03:51 pm
kyburg: (dragon fist)
Yes.

...

Feb. 23rd, 2011 03:51 pm
kyburg: (dragon fist)
Yes.

...

Feb. 23rd, 2011 03:51 pm
kyburg: (dragon fist)
Yes.

Fallout

Jan. 11th, 2011 02:58 pm
kyburg: (Hurt)
It's as if someone decided that corner needed a stop sign, after too many people had been killed in the crosswalk by negligent traffic.

I can't put the links up fast enough.

We 'idiot' liberals have been saying this for years - the amount of vitriol, pure spite and wanton calls for violence in 'conservative' dialog has been overwhelming, unattractive and in a lot of cases? Just plain scary.

(For folks who really just want to be left alone to live quietly at peace, returning the same in kind never made sense. We just don't have it in us. So we turned it off, and allowed those their first amendment rights. Hey, set an example, right?)

It became such an integral part of our popular culture, some unhinged idiot decided to take them up on it.

Of course, you assign all responsibility to the person who pulled the trigger. But the amount of scrambling on the parts of those who said the words, made the threats, directed the actions...DROVE THE BUS...to remove, scrub, deny and reframe everything ever said, claimed or supported?

Cowardly. And it's pretty clear the message is 'it's okay as long as you don't get caught' - and well, it's too late.

Folks are going to remember - at least us 'idiots' do, because in a lot of cases we must. If someone decides we don't deserve our lives because we are the wrong color, religion, gender - pick a feature - we could be killed by someone who took it upon themselves to decide it needed doing. For whatever reason.

It only takes one guy with a gun - and these days? The guns are really good.

Removing stigma, prejudice, discrimination from groups isn't only to make working environments fair and equitable (thought that's required by law), or to give underprivileged groups a hand up. It's not only to make everything accessible and fair that we allow everyone to use the same public facilities, attend the school or church of their choice or live where they want.

It also makes clear what is acceptable in this society. Where you start when you think about what's okay when you don't agree.

When too many people sneer at such things as 'weak' and show their resolve by claiming only armed resistance is the final answer to any dispute?

No surprise when it comes to pass.

You get the world you ask for, my friends.

Oh, and by the way? It's asshattery to wonder why someone didn't get mental health services in the same breath you're screeching to repeal what little health care reform has been accomplished, standing in the state that repealed assistance to the point people are dying for lack of it. Just saying.

Fallout

Jan. 11th, 2011 02:58 pm
kyburg: (Hurt)
It's as if someone decided that corner needed a stop sign, after too many people had been killed in the crosswalk by negligent traffic.

I can't put the links up fast enough.

We 'idiot' liberals have been saying this for years - the amount of vitriol, pure spite and wanton calls for violence in 'conservative' dialog has been overwhelming, unattractive and in a lot of cases? Just plain scary.

(For folks who really just want to be left alone to live quietly at peace, returning the same in kind never made sense. We just don't have it in us. So we turned it off, and allowed those their first amendment rights. Hey, set an example, right?)

It became such an integral part of our popular culture, some unhinged idiot decided to take them up on it.

Of course, you assign all responsibility to the person who pulled the trigger. But the amount of scrambling on the parts of those who said the words, made the threats, directed the actions...DROVE THE BUS...to remove, scrub, deny and reframe everything ever said, claimed or supported?

Cowardly. And it's pretty clear the message is 'it's okay as long as you don't get caught' - and well, it's too late.

Folks are going to remember - at least us 'idiots' do, because in a lot of cases we must. If someone decides we don't deserve our lives because we are the wrong color, religion, gender - pick a feature - we could be killed by someone who took it upon themselves to decide it needed doing. For whatever reason.

It only takes one guy with a gun - and these days? The guns are really good.

Removing stigma, prejudice, discrimination from groups isn't only to make working environments fair and equitable (thought that's required by law), or to give underprivileged groups a hand up. It's not only to make everything accessible and fair that we allow everyone to use the same public facilities, attend the school or church of their choice or live where they want.

It also makes clear what is acceptable in this society. Where you start when you think about what's okay when you don't agree.

When too many people sneer at such things as 'weak' and show their resolve by claiming only armed resistance is the final answer to any dispute?

No surprise when it comes to pass.

You get the world you ask for, my friends.

Oh, and by the way? It's asshattery to wonder why someone didn't get mental health services in the same breath you're screeching to repeal what little health care reform has been accomplished, standing in the state that repealed assistance to the point people are dying for lack of it. Just saying.

Fallout

Jan. 11th, 2011 02:58 pm
kyburg: (Hurt)
It's as if someone decided that corner needed a stop sign, after too many people had been killed in the crosswalk by negligent traffic.

I can't put the links up fast enough.

We 'idiot' liberals have been saying this for years - the amount of vitriol, pure spite and wanton calls for violence in 'conservative' dialog has been overwhelming, unattractive and in a lot of cases? Just plain scary.

(For folks who really just want to be left alone to live quietly at peace, returning the same in kind never made sense. We just don't have it in us. So we turned it off, and allowed those their first amendment rights. Hey, set an example, right?)

It became such an integral part of our popular culture, some unhinged idiot decided to take them up on it.

Of course, you assign all responsibility to the person who pulled the trigger. But the amount of scrambling on the parts of those who said the words, made the threats, directed the actions...DROVE THE BUS...to remove, scrub, deny and reframe everything ever said, claimed or supported?

Cowardly. And it's pretty clear the message is 'it's okay as long as you don't get caught' - and well, it's too late.

Folks are going to remember - at least us 'idiots' do, because in a lot of cases we must. If someone decides we don't deserve our lives because we are the wrong color, religion, gender - pick a feature - we could be killed by someone who took it upon themselves to decide it needed doing. For whatever reason.

It only takes one guy with a gun - and these days? The guns are really good.

Removing stigma, prejudice, discrimination from groups isn't only to make working environments fair and equitable (thought that's required by law), or to give underprivileged groups a hand up. It's not only to make everything accessible and fair that we allow everyone to use the same public facilities, attend the school or church of their choice or live where they want.

It also makes clear what is acceptable in this society. Where you start when you think about what's okay when you don't agree.

When too many people sneer at such things as 'weak' and show their resolve by claiming only armed resistance is the final answer to any dispute?

No surprise when it comes to pass.

You get the world you ask for, my friends.

Oh, and by the way? It's asshattery to wonder why someone didn't get mental health services in the same breath you're screeching to repeal what little health care reform has been accomplished, standing in the state that repealed assistance to the point people are dying for lack of it. Just saying.
kyburg: (wonder)
Is the point of reaching this age watching terrible events repeat themselves like this?

I can remember the deaths of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Robert Kennedy. Vividly.

When JFK was killed, the whole world shut down and the television never stopped reporting the news on all three channels.

The most telling thing about this shooting in Arizona is that I haven't turned on the television. Not once. Don't need to. Don't want to.

Don't think I'm going to get the truth or anything newsworthy if I do.

And that, my friends? Is the saddest stroke of all.
kyburg: (wonder)
Is the point of reaching this age watching terrible events repeat themselves like this?

I can remember the deaths of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Robert Kennedy. Vividly.

When JFK was killed, the whole world shut down and the television never stopped reporting the news on all three channels.

The most telling thing about this shooting in Arizona is that I haven't turned on the television. Not once. Don't need to. Don't want to.

Don't think I'm going to get the truth or anything newsworthy if I do.

And that, my friends? Is the saddest stroke of all.

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