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And I also just re-upped my paid account for another year, so fear y'all. Why?

Well, for one thing - I'm not subjecting anyone reading this to advertising I have no control over. I'm not making a cent off them, and frankly this isn't worth those cents to read - so no, I'm not going to have ads on this blog, such as it is.

So there.

Google+ is really wearing very thin on the ground here. One, not keeping my interest and two? Sending email to people I didn't ask it to send it to? ARE YOU NUTS.

I've visited their offices here in town. I can do it again, this time without an invitation. Not. Happy.

Looking back, I have to come to the conclusion I interview *exceptionally* well, without trying hard. Or needing a book to tell me what answer to give to silly questions. I've gotten the last five jobs I interviewed for, one try - and I have no idea why I've got the unbroken record.

One, I am humble about what I interview for - I guess - if I don't feel it's a good fit, at some level, I don't apply. That doesn't mean I don't fit a lot of jobs - believe me, that's a goal. The more you can do, the more you will do, so add those skills as fast as you can and update at every opportunity. Are they all jobs that are AWESOME, FUN and AMAZING?

Not a chance. They pay money. I'm a real Edison that way. If it doesn't pay, I'm immediately onto the thing that does. That's my freedom, that's my sense of self, without the income - I'm at the mercy of everyone around me, and that's no bueno. I'll do anything. So maybe I'm motivated. You got me.

If I have time leftover, I make art. Until then, I pay bills and everyone leaves me alone. And I remain a valid human being.

I learned early - if I can't pay my own way, I get what other people think I deserve. And I was not born a wanted child. I like my independence. A lot. I have a very stiff neck and I don't kiss ass worth a toot, so I'd better do something, neh?

At least these days, I'm keeping jobs because I'm not the wife of a type I diabetic. No, really. There's a distinct difference these days. Don't have to like it. Do have to acknowledge it.

I'm not surprised at what's going down in Oakland. People have been saying the police department there is out of control and doing Nasty Things for years now, particularly to people of color. Well, now they're doing it to everyone in one place, just for staying in one place. Not surprised, but now you know.

You think people are going to stop now, you're nuts. They want a job, y'know. If they had someplace to make a living, they'd be there instead. Also just saying.

If you want to complain, fax them a complaint.

And the beat goes on.
kyburg: (Default)
And I also just re-upped my paid account for another year, so fear y'all. Why?

Well, for one thing - I'm not subjecting anyone reading this to advertising I have no control over. I'm not making a cent off them, and frankly this isn't worth those cents to read - so no, I'm not going to have ads on this blog, such as it is.

So there.

Google+ is really wearing very thin on the ground here. One, not keeping my interest and two? Sending email to people I didn't ask it to send it to? ARE YOU NUTS.

I've visited their offices here in town. I can do it again, this time without an invitation. Not. Happy.

Looking back, I have to come to the conclusion I interview *exceptionally* well, without trying hard. Or needing a book to tell me what answer to give to silly questions. I've gotten the last five jobs I interviewed for, one try - and I have no idea why I've got the unbroken record.

One, I am humble about what I interview for - I guess - if I don't feel it's a good fit, at some level, I don't apply. That doesn't mean I don't fit a lot of jobs - believe me, that's a goal. The more you can do, the more you will do, so add those skills as fast as you can and update at every opportunity. Are they all jobs that are AWESOME, FUN and AMAZING?

Not a chance. They pay money. I'm a real Edison that way. If it doesn't pay, I'm immediately onto the thing that does. That's my freedom, that's my sense of self, without the income - I'm at the mercy of everyone around me, and that's no bueno. I'll do anything. So maybe I'm motivated. You got me.

If I have time leftover, I make art. Until then, I pay bills and everyone leaves me alone. And I remain a valid human being.

I learned early - if I can't pay my own way, I get what other people think I deserve. And I was not born a wanted child. I like my independence. A lot. I have a very stiff neck and I don't kiss ass worth a toot, so I'd better do something, neh?

At least these days, I'm keeping jobs because I'm not the wife of a type I diabetic. No, really. There's a distinct difference these days. Don't have to like it. Do have to acknowledge it.

I'm not surprised at what's going down in Oakland. People have been saying the police department there is out of control and doing Nasty Things for years now, particularly to people of color. Well, now they're doing it to everyone in one place, just for staying in one place. Not surprised, but now you know.

You think people are going to stop now, you're nuts. They want a job, y'know. If they had someplace to make a living, they'd be there instead. Also just saying.

If you want to complain, fax them a complaint.

And the beat goes on.
kyburg: (Default)
And I also just re-upped my paid account for another year, so fear y'all. Why?

Well, for one thing - I'm not subjecting anyone reading this to advertising I have no control over. I'm not making a cent off them, and frankly this isn't worth those cents to read - so no, I'm not going to have ads on this blog, such as it is.

So there.

Google+ is really wearing very thin on the ground here. One, not keeping my interest and two? Sending email to people I didn't ask it to send it to? ARE YOU NUTS.

I've visited their offices here in town. I can do it again, this time without an invitation. Not. Happy.

Looking back, I have to come to the conclusion I interview *exceptionally* well, without trying hard. Or needing a book to tell me what answer to give to silly questions. I've gotten the last five jobs I interviewed for, one try - and I have no idea why I've got the unbroken record.

One, I am humble about what I interview for - I guess - if I don't feel it's a good fit, at some level, I don't apply. That doesn't mean I don't fit a lot of jobs - believe me, that's a goal. The more you can do, the more you will do, so add those skills as fast as you can and update at every opportunity. Are they all jobs that are AWESOME, FUN and AMAZING?

Not a chance. They pay money. I'm a real Edison that way. If it doesn't pay, I'm immediately onto the thing that does. That's my freedom, that's my sense of self, without the income - I'm at the mercy of everyone around me, and that's no bueno. I'll do anything. So maybe I'm motivated. You got me.

If I have time leftover, I make art. Until then, I pay bills and everyone leaves me alone. And I remain a valid human being.

I learned early - if I can't pay my own way, I get what other people think I deserve. And I was not born a wanted child. I like my independence. A lot. I have a very stiff neck and I don't kiss ass worth a toot, so I'd better do something, neh?

At least these days, I'm keeping jobs because I'm not the wife of a type I diabetic. No, really. There's a distinct difference these days. Don't have to like it. Do have to acknowledge it.

I'm not surprised at what's going down in Oakland. People have been saying the police department there is out of control and doing Nasty Things for years now, particularly to people of color. Well, now they're doing it to everyone in one place, just for staying in one place. Not surprised, but now you know.

You think people are going to stop now, you're nuts. They want a job, y'know. If they had someplace to make a living, they'd be there instead. Also just saying.

If you want to complain, fax them a complaint.

And the beat goes on.
kyburg: (I got nothin')
Some Taiwanese women are reluctant to have children.

"We think it's not suitable to raise children, especially in Taiwan. In Taiwan, when a girl gets married she has to sacrifice a lot," one says.

"Once she reaches a certain academic level she can't just stay at home and take care of kids and her parents-in-law, but that's still what the older generation expects from them."

Another says: "Taiwan's work hours are really long. That makes it difficult to get married and have kids. You might not have much free time and it's hard to relax."


My agency right now is placing more children born in Taiwan than are born in mainland China. Why? The kids are there, needing families. More of them now than in the China program.

The wait right now is about two years - for an infant, mind. The hardest kind of adoption to find. If you are willing to adopt from foster care, older child? No problem. Six months, most of that court process time. For the China program? Check my profile - our LID for China was 02/27/07. Right now, five years and could go to seven.

In our case, our child was left at the hospital by the first mother. He was not the product of the marriage she was in - and at the time, presented with minor medical need. He was placed for adoption essentially at birth, but waited over two years before being released for a placement overseas. He wasn't special in that regard, as I'm finding.

So - not only do you have a significantly reduced birthrate, even infants released for adoption at birth aren't finding families. It's that tough and if you have a choice? You don't chose to become parents.

Here in the States, the primary indicator for declaring bankruptcy if you're female is whether or not you have children, married or single.

We are still positive on birthrate. But our children live in poverty at a rate most people would find horrifying - if they knew and actually processed what that meant. Remember, bankruptcy indicator.

It's not simple enough to say the wrong people are having children - ANYONE having children are subject to this risk of absolute financial disaster, no other factors consulted.

And still, the CW is 'I got mine, screw you! I don't want to pay for ANYONE else but me!'

Gosh, this just doesn't work. I don't know that we need to be overly concerned about global warming or not. A species that doesn't reproduce...and then rejects their young? Um. Yeah. That. That's painting with a broad brush, but geez.

(By comparison, even places that provide all kinds of incentives aren't doing much better - but being an absolute indicator of whether you're going to be a winner or a loser? It doesn't get much starker than this.)
kyburg: (I got nothin')
Some Taiwanese women are reluctant to have children.

"We think it's not suitable to raise children, especially in Taiwan. In Taiwan, when a girl gets married she has to sacrifice a lot," one says.

"Once she reaches a certain academic level she can't just stay at home and take care of kids and her parents-in-law, but that's still what the older generation expects from them."

Another says: "Taiwan's work hours are really long. That makes it difficult to get married and have kids. You might not have much free time and it's hard to relax."


My agency right now is placing more children born in Taiwan than are born in mainland China. Why? The kids are there, needing families. More of them now than in the China program.

The wait right now is about two years - for an infant, mind. The hardest kind of adoption to find. If you are willing to adopt from foster care, older child? No problem. Six months, most of that court process time. For the China program? Check my profile - our LID for China was 02/27/07. Right now, five years and could go to seven.

In our case, our child was left at the hospital by the first mother. He was not the product of the marriage she was in - and at the time, presented with minor medical need. He was placed for adoption essentially at birth, but waited over two years before being released for a placement overseas. He wasn't special in that regard, as I'm finding.

So - not only do you have a significantly reduced birthrate, even infants released for adoption at birth aren't finding families. It's that tough and if you have a choice? You don't chose to become parents.

Here in the States, the primary indicator for declaring bankruptcy if you're female is whether or not you have children, married or single.

We are still positive on birthrate. But our children live in poverty at a rate most people would find horrifying - if they knew and actually processed what that meant. Remember, bankruptcy indicator.

It's not simple enough to say the wrong people are having children - ANYONE having children are subject to this risk of absolute financial disaster, no other factors consulted.

And still, the CW is 'I got mine, screw you! I don't want to pay for ANYONE else but me!'

Gosh, this just doesn't work. I don't know that we need to be overly concerned about global warming or not. A species that doesn't reproduce...and then rejects their young? Um. Yeah. That. That's painting with a broad brush, but geez.

(By comparison, even places that provide all kinds of incentives aren't doing much better - but being an absolute indicator of whether you're going to be a winner or a loser? It doesn't get much starker than this.)
kyburg: (I got nothin')
Some Taiwanese women are reluctant to have children.

"We think it's not suitable to raise children, especially in Taiwan. In Taiwan, when a girl gets married she has to sacrifice a lot," one says.

"Once she reaches a certain academic level she can't just stay at home and take care of kids and her parents-in-law, but that's still what the older generation expects from them."

Another says: "Taiwan's work hours are really long. That makes it difficult to get married and have kids. You might not have much free time and it's hard to relax."


My agency right now is placing more children born in Taiwan than are born in mainland China. Why? The kids are there, needing families. More of them now than in the China program.

The wait right now is about two years - for an infant, mind. The hardest kind of adoption to find. If you are willing to adopt from foster care, older child? No problem. Six months, most of that court process time. For the China program? Check my profile - our LID for China was 02/27/07. Right now, five years and could go to seven.

In our case, our child was left at the hospital by the first mother. He was not the product of the marriage she was in - and at the time, presented with minor medical need. He was placed for adoption essentially at birth, but waited over two years before being released for a placement overseas. He wasn't special in that regard, as I'm finding.

So - not only do you have a significantly reduced birthrate, even infants released for adoption at birth aren't finding families. It's that tough and if you have a choice? You don't chose to become parents.

Here in the States, the primary indicator for declaring bankruptcy if you're female is whether or not you have children, married or single.

We are still positive on birthrate. But our children live in poverty at a rate most people would find horrifying - if they knew and actually processed what that meant. Remember, bankruptcy indicator.

It's not simple enough to say the wrong people are having children - ANYONE having children are subject to this risk of absolute financial disaster, no other factors consulted.

And still, the CW is 'I got mine, screw you! I don't want to pay for ANYONE else but me!'

Gosh, this just doesn't work. I don't know that we need to be overly concerned about global warming or not. A species that doesn't reproduce...and then rejects their young? Um. Yeah. That. That's painting with a broad brush, but geez.

(By comparison, even places that provide all kinds of incentives aren't doing much better - but being an absolute indicator of whether you're going to be a winner or a loser? It doesn't get much starker than this.)

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Feb. 23rd, 2011 03:51 pm
kyburg: (dragon fist)
Yes.

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Feb. 23rd, 2011 03:51 pm
kyburg: (dragon fist)
Yes.

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Feb. 23rd, 2011 03:51 pm
kyburg: (dragon fist)
Yes.
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I've gotten a few swift kicks to the head lately, courtesy of folks I only interact with via Twitter and LJ - [livejournal.com profile] kambriel  remarked on Twitter the other day how passing strange it is to attend an estate sale (and it is), and almost on top of that I heard that a dear creature named Melissa Mia Hall had died alone in her home, too concerned about the cost of seeking care for pain, lest she lose everything she held dear.  Pain from a heart attack that killed her.

Pain like that, they give you morphine for - if you're hospitalized.  Which you should be, all things considered.  You've paid your taxes to fund research into preventing and treating these things, after all.  I could go on - I'm sure you've heard it from more legitimate voices than mine.

I wish I'd known.  I would have demanded she be seen.  Yes, hang it all and risk everything - you better believe it.

This is not a demand that anything you have is forfeit or should be, in the case of basic medical care - far from it.  In a country as rich as ours, as developed and smart and accessible as our medical skills are - keeping anyone who has paid their due from it is criminal.  And gee, that's everyone.

I can remember when hospitals grew their own food.  I remember hospitals before Medicare...and after.  Before Roe v. Wade - and after.  Before paramedic programs - and after.  We can do amazing things today, and talking with my mother who graduated from nurses' training in the mid 40's during WWII only confirms that.

We all deserve the benefit of those years.  Now, put that to the side.

I am here to talk about The Things.

If you are truly concerned about losing everything in case you get Something Expensive - take a look around for a moment and tally the worth you think your Things are worth.  Then cut it by 2/3'rds.  I've had three house fires, I know how this works - what you have is not worth what it cost you to get it.  Always insure for replacement value, not actual - for that reason.

If what you have won't even see you through an ER visit, put losing The Things as a worry out of your head.  Because you won't.  Losing your things won't even put a drop in the bucket, so don't even go there.  You couldn't possibly sell everything anyway.  Some things can help and some assistance programs require you to go to poverty to qualify for them - if you're concerned about needing them, read up on just what that would look like in your world and think about how you would accommodate those standards.  You can't qualify for help if you don't have a place - so assuming you would be getting assistance only by living on the streets isn't realistic.

So you aren't going to lose your home.  You are going to pay your home costs first.  Those dollars don't have any assistance available to them, so they get the money first.  Ditto the food, the lights and anything that will allow you to keep working.  You will negotiate your medical expenses, because at the very bottom?  There is always assistance available  You wouldn't believe it on this side of the Styx, but I tell you from experience.  I once had a heart-to-heart with a social worker when Cliff was in long-term acute care in 1997 - his Medicare lifetime benefits were almost all used up and the hospital accounting department had charged her with informing me that his care was soon to begin being 'uncovered' - so to speak.  After giving her the list of things I had available to take the place of Medicare (at the age of 34, ESRD qualifies you and nobody else will cover you), which included the MRM California has, and the workmans comp case he was part of (with two companies as his employer had been sold twice since he had been terminated disabled).  The two of us talked.  Suddenly, Medicare stopped being an issue - and I walked over to the county offices and applied for Medi-Cal/Medicaid.  With that onboard, the concerns eased.  I paid the rent, the utilities, the insurance policies, bought food and kept working.

You don't want to get into debt, I can completely understand that.  Don't  then - if anyone wanted me to get a workup done that wasn't covered by my insurance plan and I couldn't come up with out of pocket?  I go back to them and tell them to find a way.  You think it's medically necessary?  Fine.  You make it happen.  If you can't?  Well, guess you weren't serious about that then, were you?  If there is a risk of something Bad happening to you because they couldn't get the knowledge they needed about your condition?  The responsibility is now on them - you didn't go AMA on something because you didn't want to lose everything.  I can't guarantee the results on this - but it certainly has shifted the blame away from the patient who is the perfect innocent in these cases.  It also tends to reduce unnecessary medical tests.

Did it work for me?  Hell, yeah.  It's not my fault and I have no compunctions about negotiating a way, even if means shifting the liability responsibility back onto the provider.  They carry malpractice insurance, after all - something you don't have and can't get.  I'm not interested in being a very good girl when the deck is that stacked against me.

I'm not going to tell you it isn't terrifying.  It is.  I know.

Not saying you won't feel like dirt and worse.  I know.

You will be hounded by collection agents - I fear none of them.  BRING IT.

Hope you can eat a lot of ramen and pasta, because you will.  My favorite save-the-money-for-the-drugs diet is still a box of pancake mix, a dozen eggs and a pound of bacon, maybe with syrup.  That at least has some fat in it.  I used to make sourdough bread in the breadmaker.

But you will not lose everything.

It will SUCK.  Harder and longer than anything you ever knew.  

But I tell you to do this.  Why?

Let me go back to The Things.

I grew up in a town where most of the residents had gone there to die.  Seriously - everyone has a grandparent or two in Hemet, or had one, as the case may be.  They shipped them in from the midwest, from Oklahoma and Texas and other points outside of California.  Moved them in, with their Things to keep them company (and little old people tend to hoard, I might add) and left them there.

I grew up surrounded by the Things they left behind.  Estate sales and yard sales and 'antique' stores by the buttload.  'Junking' wasn't something you avoided - it was a national pastime.  I remember the stacks of 78's I used to listen to, right alongside my Beatles 45's.  We used to do crafts with doilies and old linens, costume jewelry and empty jars.  Every drama department had closets full of period clothing from the 30's on up - so full, you couldn't put anything else in there.  Things were donated all the time.  We put them in boxes and stacked them to the ceiling.  I love Depression Glass.  All of us have considerable collections, and only Mom's pieces are younger than she is.  I have rehomed more books than I own and that's saying something.  You should read some of the pieces I kept as touchstones - the racy 'The Maiden Widow' is amazing, something like 1921 or so as the copyright.  Racy in the terms of 'how DOES one become a widow and remain a virgin?  HMMM. CHICKEN OR THE EGG!'

You touch these things and you can almost feel how much they were loved and treasured by someone who just isn't here anymore.  Over and over again.

I would much rather have them, than their Things.

You want to know what happens to your Things, if you aren't here?  Check the video on top.  It's ghoulish.  And yeah, I grew up with that.  Passing strange, indeed.

So - lose The Things.  If it costs you your life if you don't risk that - you lose everything.  I've had three house fires, and if we count the two burglaries?  Guys - you can replace Things.  You can even get the chance to get them back, worst case - if you die trying to preserve your ownership of Things, what have you done?

And like it or not, none of us are going to get out of here with our Things.  Not a single one of us.  Now or later.

Not many faith systems fail to touch upon this, the Buddhist tradition hitting it harder than most of them.  When in doubt, divest.  Dump it, get rid of it, do without it.  No Thing is worth your life.

Keep your outrage about your fears of paying for medical care - they are valid and you aren't smoking crack about it.  Stay angry when you hear about some patient discharged from a hospital bed to a street outside a homeless shelter - it's wrong.  Be as fair and up front as you possibly can when dealing with your health care providers.  Work as hard as you can to cover the costs, that's only meet.

Always do your best.  Your life has an impact on others.

But know this.  Nobody gets my life - or my Things - without one hell of a fight.  I will NOT go quietly, and that's a promise.
kyburg: (Default)
 


I've gotten a few swift kicks to the head lately, courtesy of folks I only interact with via Twitter and LJ - [livejournal.com profile] kambriel  remarked on Twitter the other day how passing strange it is to attend an estate sale (and it is), and almost on top of that I heard that a dear creature named Melissa Mia Hall had died alone in her home, too concerned about the cost of seeking care for pain, lest she lose everything she held dear.  Pain from a heart attack that killed her.

Pain like that, they give you morphine for - if you're hospitalized.  Which you should be, all things considered.  You've paid your taxes to fund research into preventing and treating these things, after all.  I could go on - I'm sure you've heard it from more legitimate voices than mine.

I wish I'd known.  I would have demanded she be seen.  Yes, hang it all and risk everything - you better believe it.

This is not a demand that anything you have is forfeit or should be, in the case of basic medical care - far from it.  In a country as rich as ours, as developed and smart and accessible as our medical skills are - keeping anyone who has paid their due from it is criminal.  And gee, that's everyone.

I can remember when hospitals grew their own food.  I remember hospitals before Medicare...and after.  Before Roe v. Wade - and after.  Before paramedic programs - and after.  We can do amazing things today, and talking with my mother who graduated from nurses' training in the mid 40's during WWII only confirms that.

We all deserve the benefit of those years.  Now, put that to the side.

I am here to talk about The Things.

If you are truly concerned about losing everything in case you get Something Expensive - take a look around for a moment and tally the worth you think your Things are worth.  Then cut it by 2/3'rds.  I've had three house fires, I know how this works - what you have is not worth what it cost you to get it.  Always insure for replacement value, not actual - for that reason.

If what you have won't even see you through an ER visit, put losing The Things as a worry out of your head.  Because you won't.  Losing your things won't even put a drop in the bucket, so don't even go there.  You couldn't possibly sell everything anyway.  Some things can help and some assistance programs require you to go to poverty to qualify for them - if you're concerned about needing them, read up on just what that would look like in your world and think about how you would accommodate those standards.  You can't qualify for help if you don't have a place - so assuming you would be getting assistance only by living on the streets isn't realistic.

So you aren't going to lose your home.  You are going to pay your home costs first.  Those dollars don't have any assistance available to them, so they get the money first.  Ditto the food, the lights and anything that will allow you to keep working.  You will negotiate your medical expenses, because at the very bottom?  There is always assistance available  You wouldn't believe it on this side of the Styx, but I tell you from experience.  I once had a heart-to-heart with a social worker when Cliff was in long-term acute care in 1997 - his Medicare lifetime benefits were almost all used up and the hospital accounting department had charged her with informing me that his care was soon to begin being 'uncovered' - so to speak.  After giving her the list of things I had available to take the place of Medicare (at the age of 34, ESRD qualifies you and nobody else will cover you), which included the MRM California has, and the workmans comp case he was part of (with two companies as his employer had been sold twice since he had been terminated disabled).  The two of us talked.  Suddenly, Medicare stopped being an issue - and I walked over to the county offices and applied for Medi-Cal/Medicaid.  With that onboard, the concerns eased.  I paid the rent, the utilities, the insurance policies, bought food and kept working.

You don't want to get into debt, I can completely understand that.  Don't  then - if anyone wanted me to get a workup done that wasn't covered by my insurance plan and I couldn't come up with out of pocket?  I go back to them and tell them to find a way.  You think it's medically necessary?  Fine.  You make it happen.  If you can't?  Well, guess you weren't serious about that then, were you?  If there is a risk of something Bad happening to you because they couldn't get the knowledge they needed about your condition?  The responsibility is now on them - you didn't go AMA on something because you didn't want to lose everything.  I can't guarantee the results on this - but it certainly has shifted the blame away from the patient who is the perfect innocent in these cases.  It also tends to reduce unnecessary medical tests.

Did it work for me?  Hell, yeah.  It's not my fault and I have no compunctions about negotiating a way, even if means shifting the liability responsibility back onto the provider.  They carry malpractice insurance, after all - something you don't have and can't get.  I'm not interested in being a very good girl when the deck is that stacked against me.

I'm not going to tell you it isn't terrifying.  It is.  I know.

Not saying you won't feel like dirt and worse.  I know.

You will be hounded by collection agents - I fear none of them.  BRING IT.

Hope you can eat a lot of ramen and pasta, because you will.  My favorite save-the-money-for-the-drugs diet is still a box of pancake mix, a dozen eggs and a pound of bacon, maybe with syrup.  That at least has some fat in it.  I used to make sourdough bread in the breadmaker.

But you will not lose everything.

It will SUCK.  Harder and longer than anything you ever knew.  

But I tell you to do this.  Why?

Let me go back to The Things.

I grew up in a town where most of the residents had gone there to die.  Seriously - everyone has a grandparent or two in Hemet, or had one, as the case may be.  They shipped them in from the midwest, from Oklahoma and Texas and other points outside of California.  Moved them in, with their Things to keep them company (and little old people tend to hoard, I might add) and left them there.

I grew up surrounded by the Things they left behind.  Estate sales and yard sales and 'antique' stores by the buttload.  'Junking' wasn't something you avoided - it was a national pastime.  I remember the stacks of 78's I used to listen to, right alongside my Beatles 45's.  We used to do crafts with doilies and old linens, costume jewelry and empty jars.  Every drama department had closets full of period clothing from the 30's on up - so full, you couldn't put anything else in there.  Things were donated all the time.  We put them in boxes and stacked them to the ceiling.  I love Depression Glass.  All of us have considerable collections, and only Mom's pieces are younger than she is.  I have rehomed more books than I own and that's saying something.  You should read some of the pieces I kept as touchstones - the racy 'The Maiden Widow' is amazing, something like 1921 or so as the copyright.  Racy in the terms of 'how DOES one become a widow and remain a virgin?  HMMM. CHICKEN OR THE EGG!'

You touch these things and you can almost feel how much they were loved and treasured by someone who just isn't here anymore.  Over and over again.

I would much rather have them, than their Things.

You want to know what happens to your Things, if you aren't here?  Check the video on top.  It's ghoulish.  And yeah, I grew up with that.  Passing strange, indeed.

So - lose The Things.  If it costs you your life if you don't risk that - you lose everything.  I've had three house fires, and if we count the two burglaries?  Guys - you can replace Things.  You can even get the chance to get them back, worst case - if you die trying to preserve your ownership of Things, what have you done?

And like it or not, none of us are going to get out of here with our Things.  Not a single one of us.  Now or later.

Not many faith systems fail to touch upon this, the Buddhist tradition hitting it harder than most of them.  When in doubt, divest.  Dump it, get rid of it, do without it.  No Thing is worth your life.

Keep your outrage about your fears of paying for medical care - they are valid and you aren't smoking crack about it.  Stay angry when you hear about some patient discharged from a hospital bed to a street outside a homeless shelter - it's wrong.  Be as fair and up front as you possibly can when dealing with your health care providers.  Work as hard as you can to cover the costs, that's only meet.

Always do your best.  Your life has an impact on others.

But know this.  Nobody gets my life - or my Things - without one hell of a fight.  I will NOT go quietly, and that's a promise.
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I've gotten a few swift kicks to the head lately, courtesy of folks I only interact with via Twitter and LJ - [livejournal.com profile] kambriel  remarked on Twitter the other day how passing strange it is to attend an estate sale (and it is), and almost on top of that I heard that a dear creature named Melissa Mia Hall had died alone in her home, too concerned about the cost of seeking care for pain, lest she lose everything she held dear.  Pain from a heart attack that killed her.

Pain like that, they give you morphine for - if you're hospitalized.  Which you should be, all things considered.  You've paid your taxes to fund research into preventing and treating these things, after all.  I could go on - I'm sure you've heard it from more legitimate voices than mine.

I wish I'd known.  I would have demanded she be seen.  Yes, hang it all and risk everything - you better believe it.

This is not a demand that anything you have is forfeit or should be, in the case of basic medical care - far from it.  In a country as rich as ours, as developed and smart and accessible as our medical skills are - keeping anyone who has paid their due from it is criminal.  And gee, that's everyone.

I can remember when hospitals grew their own food.  I remember hospitals before Medicare...and after.  Before Roe v. Wade - and after.  Before paramedic programs - and after.  We can do amazing things today, and talking with my mother who graduated from nurses' training in the mid 40's during WWII only confirms that.

We all deserve the benefit of those years.  Now, put that to the side.

I am here to talk about The Things.

If you are truly concerned about losing everything in case you get Something Expensive - take a look around for a moment and tally the worth you think your Things are worth.  Then cut it by 2/3'rds.  I've had three house fires, I know how this works - what you have is not worth what it cost you to get it.  Always insure for replacement value, not actual - for that reason.

If what you have won't even see you through an ER visit, put losing The Things as a worry out of your head.  Because you won't.  Losing your things won't even put a drop in the bucket, so don't even go there.  You couldn't possibly sell everything anyway.  Some things can help and some assistance programs require you to go to poverty to qualify for them - if you're concerned about needing them, read up on just what that would look like in your world and think about how you would accommodate those standards.  You can't qualify for help if you don't have a place - so assuming you would be getting assistance only by living on the streets isn't realistic.

So you aren't going to lose your home.  You are going to pay your home costs first.  Those dollars don't have any assistance available to them, so they get the money first.  Ditto the food, the lights and anything that will allow you to keep working.  You will negotiate your medical expenses, because at the very bottom?  There is always assistance available  You wouldn't believe it on this side of the Styx, but I tell you from experience.  I once had a heart-to-heart with a social worker when Cliff was in long-term acute care in 1997 - his Medicare lifetime benefits were almost all used up and the hospital accounting department had charged her with informing me that his care was soon to begin being 'uncovered' - so to speak.  After giving her the list of things I had available to take the place of Medicare (at the age of 34, ESRD qualifies you and nobody else will cover you), which included the MRM California has, and the workmans comp case he was part of (with two companies as his employer had been sold twice since he had been terminated disabled).  The two of us talked.  Suddenly, Medicare stopped being an issue - and I walked over to the county offices and applied for Medi-Cal/Medicaid.  With that onboard, the concerns eased.  I paid the rent, the utilities, the insurance policies, bought food and kept working.

You don't want to get into debt, I can completely understand that.  Don't  then - if anyone wanted me to get a workup done that wasn't covered by my insurance plan and I couldn't come up with out of pocket?  I go back to them and tell them to find a way.  You think it's medically necessary?  Fine.  You make it happen.  If you can't?  Well, guess you weren't serious about that then, were you?  If there is a risk of something Bad happening to you because they couldn't get the knowledge they needed about your condition?  The responsibility is now on them - you didn't go AMA on something because you didn't want to lose everything.  I can't guarantee the results on this - but it certainly has shifted the blame away from the patient who is the perfect innocent in these cases.  It also tends to reduce unnecessary medical tests.

Did it work for me?  Hell, yeah.  It's not my fault and I have no compunctions about negotiating a way, even if means shifting the liability responsibility back onto the provider.  They carry malpractice insurance, after all - something you don't have and can't get.  I'm not interested in being a very good girl when the deck is that stacked against me.

I'm not going to tell you it isn't terrifying.  It is.  I know.

Not saying you won't feel like dirt and worse.  I know.

You will be hounded by collection agents - I fear none of them.  BRING IT.

Hope you can eat a lot of ramen and pasta, because you will.  My favorite save-the-money-for-the-drugs diet is still a box of pancake mix, a dozen eggs and a pound of bacon, maybe with syrup.  That at least has some fat in it.  I used to make sourdough bread in the breadmaker.

But you will not lose everything.

It will SUCK.  Harder and longer than anything you ever knew.  

But I tell you to do this.  Why?

Let me go back to The Things.

I grew up in a town where most of the residents had gone there to die.  Seriously - everyone has a grandparent or two in Hemet, or had one, as the case may be.  They shipped them in from the midwest, from Oklahoma and Texas and other points outside of California.  Moved them in, with their Things to keep them company (and little old people tend to hoard, I might add) and left them there.

I grew up surrounded by the Things they left behind.  Estate sales and yard sales and 'antique' stores by the buttload.  'Junking' wasn't something you avoided - it was a national pastime.  I remember the stacks of 78's I used to listen to, right alongside my Beatles 45's.  We used to do crafts with doilies and old linens, costume jewelry and empty jars.  Every drama department had closets full of period clothing from the 30's on up - so full, you couldn't put anything else in there.  Things were donated all the time.  We put them in boxes and stacked them to the ceiling.  I love Depression Glass.  All of us have considerable collections, and only Mom's pieces are younger than she is.  I have rehomed more books than I own and that's saying something.  You should read some of the pieces I kept as touchstones - the racy 'The Maiden Widow' is amazing, something like 1921 or so as the copyright.  Racy in the terms of 'how DOES one become a widow and remain a virgin?  HMMM. CHICKEN OR THE EGG!'

You touch these things and you can almost feel how much they were loved and treasured by someone who just isn't here anymore.  Over and over again.

I would much rather have them, than their Things.

You want to know what happens to your Things, if you aren't here?  Check the video on top.  It's ghoulish.  And yeah, I grew up with that.  Passing strange, indeed.

So - lose The Things.  If it costs you your life if you don't risk that - you lose everything.  I've had three house fires, and if we count the two burglaries?  Guys - you can replace Things.  You can even get the chance to get them back, worst case - if you die trying to preserve your ownership of Things, what have you done?

And like it or not, none of us are going to get out of here with our Things.  Not a single one of us.  Now or later.

Not many faith systems fail to touch upon this, the Buddhist tradition hitting it harder than most of them.  When in doubt, divest.  Dump it, get rid of it, do without it.  No Thing is worth your life.

Keep your outrage about your fears of paying for medical care - they are valid and you aren't smoking crack about it.  Stay angry when you hear about some patient discharged from a hospital bed to a street outside a homeless shelter - it's wrong.  Be as fair and up front as you possibly can when dealing with your health care providers.  Work as hard as you can to cover the costs, that's only meet.

Always do your best.  Your life has an impact on others.

But know this.  Nobody gets my life - or my Things - without one hell of a fight.  I will NOT go quietly, and that's a promise.

Fallout

Jan. 11th, 2011 02:58 pm
kyburg: (Hurt)
It's as if someone decided that corner needed a stop sign, after too many people had been killed in the crosswalk by negligent traffic.

I can't put the links up fast enough.

We 'idiot' liberals have been saying this for years - the amount of vitriol, pure spite and wanton calls for violence in 'conservative' dialog has been overwhelming, unattractive and in a lot of cases? Just plain scary.

(For folks who really just want to be left alone to live quietly at peace, returning the same in kind never made sense. We just don't have it in us. So we turned it off, and allowed those their first amendment rights. Hey, set an example, right?)

It became such an integral part of our popular culture, some unhinged idiot decided to take them up on it.

Of course, you assign all responsibility to the person who pulled the trigger. But the amount of scrambling on the parts of those who said the words, made the threats, directed the actions...DROVE THE BUS...to remove, scrub, deny and reframe everything ever said, claimed or supported?

Cowardly. And it's pretty clear the message is 'it's okay as long as you don't get caught' - and well, it's too late.

Folks are going to remember - at least us 'idiots' do, because in a lot of cases we must. If someone decides we don't deserve our lives because we are the wrong color, religion, gender - pick a feature - we could be killed by someone who took it upon themselves to decide it needed doing. For whatever reason.

It only takes one guy with a gun - and these days? The guns are really good.

Removing stigma, prejudice, discrimination from groups isn't only to make working environments fair and equitable (thought that's required by law), or to give underprivileged groups a hand up. It's not only to make everything accessible and fair that we allow everyone to use the same public facilities, attend the school or church of their choice or live where they want.

It also makes clear what is acceptable in this society. Where you start when you think about what's okay when you don't agree.

When too many people sneer at such things as 'weak' and show their resolve by claiming only armed resistance is the final answer to any dispute?

No surprise when it comes to pass.

You get the world you ask for, my friends.

Oh, and by the way? It's asshattery to wonder why someone didn't get mental health services in the same breath you're screeching to repeal what little health care reform has been accomplished, standing in the state that repealed assistance to the point people are dying for lack of it. Just saying.

Fallout

Jan. 11th, 2011 02:58 pm
kyburg: (Hurt)
It's as if someone decided that corner needed a stop sign, after too many people had been killed in the crosswalk by negligent traffic.

I can't put the links up fast enough.

We 'idiot' liberals have been saying this for years - the amount of vitriol, pure spite and wanton calls for violence in 'conservative' dialog has been overwhelming, unattractive and in a lot of cases? Just plain scary.

(For folks who really just want to be left alone to live quietly at peace, returning the same in kind never made sense. We just don't have it in us. So we turned it off, and allowed those their first amendment rights. Hey, set an example, right?)

It became such an integral part of our popular culture, some unhinged idiot decided to take them up on it.

Of course, you assign all responsibility to the person who pulled the trigger. But the amount of scrambling on the parts of those who said the words, made the threats, directed the actions...DROVE THE BUS...to remove, scrub, deny and reframe everything ever said, claimed or supported?

Cowardly. And it's pretty clear the message is 'it's okay as long as you don't get caught' - and well, it's too late.

Folks are going to remember - at least us 'idiots' do, because in a lot of cases we must. If someone decides we don't deserve our lives because we are the wrong color, religion, gender - pick a feature - we could be killed by someone who took it upon themselves to decide it needed doing. For whatever reason.

It only takes one guy with a gun - and these days? The guns are really good.

Removing stigma, prejudice, discrimination from groups isn't only to make working environments fair and equitable (thought that's required by law), or to give underprivileged groups a hand up. It's not only to make everything accessible and fair that we allow everyone to use the same public facilities, attend the school or church of their choice or live where they want.

It also makes clear what is acceptable in this society. Where you start when you think about what's okay when you don't agree.

When too many people sneer at such things as 'weak' and show their resolve by claiming only armed resistance is the final answer to any dispute?

No surprise when it comes to pass.

You get the world you ask for, my friends.

Oh, and by the way? It's asshattery to wonder why someone didn't get mental health services in the same breath you're screeching to repeal what little health care reform has been accomplished, standing in the state that repealed assistance to the point people are dying for lack of it. Just saying.

Fallout

Jan. 11th, 2011 02:58 pm
kyburg: (Hurt)
It's as if someone decided that corner needed a stop sign, after too many people had been killed in the crosswalk by negligent traffic.

I can't put the links up fast enough.

We 'idiot' liberals have been saying this for years - the amount of vitriol, pure spite and wanton calls for violence in 'conservative' dialog has been overwhelming, unattractive and in a lot of cases? Just plain scary.

(For folks who really just want to be left alone to live quietly at peace, returning the same in kind never made sense. We just don't have it in us. So we turned it off, and allowed those their first amendment rights. Hey, set an example, right?)

It became such an integral part of our popular culture, some unhinged idiot decided to take them up on it.

Of course, you assign all responsibility to the person who pulled the trigger. But the amount of scrambling on the parts of those who said the words, made the threats, directed the actions...DROVE THE BUS...to remove, scrub, deny and reframe everything ever said, claimed or supported?

Cowardly. And it's pretty clear the message is 'it's okay as long as you don't get caught' - and well, it's too late.

Folks are going to remember - at least us 'idiots' do, because in a lot of cases we must. If someone decides we don't deserve our lives because we are the wrong color, religion, gender - pick a feature - we could be killed by someone who took it upon themselves to decide it needed doing. For whatever reason.

It only takes one guy with a gun - and these days? The guns are really good.

Removing stigma, prejudice, discrimination from groups isn't only to make working environments fair and equitable (thought that's required by law), or to give underprivileged groups a hand up. It's not only to make everything accessible and fair that we allow everyone to use the same public facilities, attend the school or church of their choice or live where they want.

It also makes clear what is acceptable in this society. Where you start when you think about what's okay when you don't agree.

When too many people sneer at such things as 'weak' and show their resolve by claiming only armed resistance is the final answer to any dispute?

No surprise when it comes to pass.

You get the world you ask for, my friends.

Oh, and by the way? It's asshattery to wonder why someone didn't get mental health services in the same breath you're screeching to repeal what little health care reform has been accomplished, standing in the state that repealed assistance to the point people are dying for lack of it. Just saying.
kyburg: (wonder)
Is the point of reaching this age watching terrible events repeat themselves like this?

I can remember the deaths of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Robert Kennedy. Vividly.

When JFK was killed, the whole world shut down and the television never stopped reporting the news on all three channels.

The most telling thing about this shooting in Arizona is that I haven't turned on the television. Not once. Don't need to. Don't want to.

Don't think I'm going to get the truth or anything newsworthy if I do.

And that, my friends? Is the saddest stroke of all.
kyburg: (wonder)
Is the point of reaching this age watching terrible events repeat themselves like this?

I can remember the deaths of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Robert Kennedy. Vividly.

When JFK was killed, the whole world shut down and the television never stopped reporting the news on all three channels.

The most telling thing about this shooting in Arizona is that I haven't turned on the television. Not once. Don't need to. Don't want to.

Don't think I'm going to get the truth or anything newsworthy if I do.

And that, my friends? Is the saddest stroke of all.
kyburg: (wonder)
Is the point of reaching this age watching terrible events repeat themselves like this?

I can remember the deaths of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King and Robert Kennedy. Vividly.

When JFK was killed, the whole world shut down and the television never stopped reporting the news on all three channels.

The most telling thing about this shooting in Arizona is that I haven't turned on the television. Not once. Don't need to. Don't want to.

Don't think I'm going to get the truth or anything newsworthy if I do.

And that, my friends? Is the saddest stroke of all.
kyburg: (katamari obama)
Election is over and it's what we've been told to expect for months. Except, not as bad as we were told to expect. They didn't flush both houses, just one. They didn't buy our senator or our governor.

And it is entirely possible that waves begin in California. From here, it's a lot of very blue sky this morning.

If there is going to be some truly crazy crazy, this is the place to wait it out, methinks.

And compared to 2000, 2002 and 2004 - this is a kiss on the cheek.

Speak truth to power, my friends - hang onto your temper with everything you have and don't let your anger speak instead of your intellect. Be right. Be nailed down, no doubt about it, and I can be legitimate and mature about this, why can't you about it.

No name calling.

No cheap shots.

Just be right. And get your act together and your arguments in order.

2012 is coming.

And no, I'm not going back to Kentucky until Ron Paul is GONE. If there is anything I'm fairly certain of, is that he's got very little interest in keeping Americans safe - let alone some dumb broad who doesn't agree with him. (What, I'm an American? I'm female - not to these guys, I'm not.)
kyburg: (katamari obama)
Election is over and it's what we've been told to expect for months. Except, not as bad as we were told to expect. They didn't flush both houses, just one. They didn't buy our senator or our governor.

And it is entirely possible that waves begin in California. From here, it's a lot of very blue sky this morning.

If there is going to be some truly crazy crazy, this is the place to wait it out, methinks.

And compared to 2000, 2002 and 2004 - this is a kiss on the cheek.

Speak truth to power, my friends - hang onto your temper with everything you have and don't let your anger speak instead of your intellect. Be right. Be nailed down, no doubt about it, and I can be legitimate and mature about this, why can't you about it.

No name calling.

No cheap shots.

Just be right. And get your act together and your arguments in order.

2012 is coming.

And no, I'm not going back to Kentucky until Ron Paul is GONE. If there is anything I'm fairly certain of, is that he's got very little interest in keeping Americans safe - let alone some dumb broad who doesn't agree with him. (What, I'm an American? I'm female - not to these guys, I'm not.)

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