The more I hear about this, the more it appears that she will not get out of it. If she fell out of status (due to the attorney), had a hearing and didn't go to it (her choice), and then the INS came to her house (usually only done if there is already deportition charges pending), that doesn't look good. The judge is going to want to know why she didn't make the hearing, she was given a chance already to fix the situation. If she's been out of status for 180 days or more, which if she had a hearing and didn't go, etc... is likely, she's screwed. That's the harsh reality.

I would rather send her money to help her start a new life back in Thailand with her kids, because that will not be easy, and a better use for the money. Hopefully she has family back in Thailand that can help her when she gets there.