I used to agree with this, but I don't anymore. Now that I know what it is to desperately want a child, I can't feel it's right to pressure women into giving up their children. Obviously women can cede their rights to parenthood by abusing their children, but just being young doesn't constitute abuse.


There are more types of adoption situations than the "traditional" kind - believe me, I've done the research. There's no 'giving up' in adoption these days, not unless you want to.

In most open adoption situations, the birth mother has no legal rights. While in the negotiation, the adoptive parents may promise all kinds of things, after the papers are signed they can do whatever they want. birthmothers is a closed community now, but when it was open, I read a lot of heartrending stories.