Expect others to give up their children? No, I don't. Where are you getting that from? And why do you have this automatic expectation that we will act in bad faith? You want to know about my character? Ask kyburg. Seriously, do.

We will almost certainly be adopting an older child or children from the foster care system, providing a loving family to those kids who need it the very most.

I am disappointed to learn from you that open adoption isn't enforceable, but if it isn't, maybe it should be. Maybe the law should be changed. I assume you're devoting time to activism in that regard.