And that's enough for me to think a birthmother would be foolish to just trust you.

Ergo the need for a contract, one that is legally enforceable, so that those who would act in bad faith cannot do so. It's why I suggest that perhaps the law should be changed.

My activism issue right now is making sure that all of my friends can get married to their chosen spouses, regardless of whether those spouses are the same sex or not. That's taking up a great deal of my activism time, and I don't have enough energy these days to take on another major issue at the same time. I used to, but no more. Damn this kidney disease anyway.