Hon, in all honestly, she had a point. The legally enforceable portion would largely entail putting documents and contact information in a place where the child would have access to it. After that, it's all on the parties to get along. If things mesh, all well and good - if things don't, then the parents have to have the well-being of their family as the first priority, not the 'rights' of the biological parents.

But having to say goodbye, never knowing how things went? History.