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I'm fat, tired and it's all your fault!
Ahem. The title of the book is Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Subtitled?
SCRAPE 'EM OFF.
Um.
Everybody is difficult for someone at some time. Trust me on this. The knack is knowing how to handle difficult people - and the sooner you learn that skill, the better. Ducking the opportunities to do this? Reprehensible and short-sighted. You're going to be one of those "energy vampires" someday - and once everyone has been trained to avoid you, then what?
What comes around, goes around.
Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.
And treat people as you would have them treat you.
And, oh. Remember that the only person you can influence is you. You get very tired trying to manage other people's stuff. Quit it. And don't hesistate to be honest when you don't really want to discuss someone else's gossip with them, okay? That's cool.
REALLY.
Oh, and eDiets? For putting this in my email box? Die.
Ahem. The title of the book is Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Subtitled?
SCRAPE 'EM OFF.
Um.
Everybody is difficult for someone at some time. Trust me on this. The knack is knowing how to handle difficult people - and the sooner you learn that skill, the better. Ducking the opportunities to do this? Reprehensible and short-sighted. You're going to be one of those "energy vampires" someday - and once everyone has been trained to avoid you, then what?
What comes around, goes around.
Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.
And treat people as you would have them treat you.
And, oh. Remember that the only person you can influence is you. You get very tired trying to manage other people's stuff. Quit it. And don't hesistate to be honest when you don't really want to discuss someone else's gossip with them, okay? That's cool.
REALLY.
Oh, and eDiets? For putting this in my email box? Die.
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True, most people aren't so dreadful that it has to come to that. But some are, and for those that are, after they've screwed up every fresh chance I've given them, I don't think it's my responsibility to keep them in my life. I don't think it's "reprehensible and short-sighted" to cut out people like that, I think it's the only sensible course of action short of killing them.
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"I get SO depressed around poor people!"
(We'll use the verb "poor" as a placeholder. Insert any societal ill you wish to name.)
It's narsty for anyone - to avoid a group just because? And because it's tough to deal with?
The article (and the book) actively advise you to avoid anyone who annoys you. That's what I hav issue with.
Dealing with difficult people often means setting boundaries - and barriers - but to do it pre-emptively?
That's - unmentionable.
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Cutting out individuals who've all ready caused you grief is one thing, but to do it pre-emptively to a whole group because they MIGHT annoy you, that's just wrong. There's a word for people who deliberately avoid certain groups or classes of society, and it's not a nice word. It's such bad advice that it's hard to imagine anyone taking it seriously, but at the same time I know there are people out there doing much dumber things because a book told them to.
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