To be filed under "Attitudes I Despise"

[kyburg]

I'm fat, tired and it's all your fault!

Ahem. The title of the book is Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Subtitled?

SCRAPE 'EM OFF.

Um.

Everybody is difficult for someone at some time. Trust me on this. The knack is knowing how to handle difficult people - and the sooner you learn that skill, the better. Ducking the opportunities to do this? Reprehensible and short-sighted. You're going to be one of those "energy vampires" someday - and once everyone has been trained to avoid you, then what?

What comes around, goes around.

Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.

And treat people as you would have them treat you.

And, oh. Remember that the only person you can influence is you. You get very tired trying to manage other people's stuff. Quit it. And don't hesistate to be honest when you don't really want to discuss someone else's gossip with them, okay? That's cool.

REALLY.

Oh, and eDiets? For putting this in my email box? Die.

Comments

[betnoir.livejournal.com]

A'freakin-men, Sistah!

I ain't yo' momma, and I ain't cleanin' that up, so don' you be givin' me no stinkeye about it.

Hence, the icon of choice.

[foogod.livejournal.com]

Umm, you do realize that by posting that link here (and thus causing all of us curious LJ readers out here to click on it), you're generating a lot of hits linked to the tracking code they sent out in that spam to see whether people read it or not?

So basically you've sent a signal to them saying "If you send me this stuff, it'll generate tons of hits! Send me more! More!"

You might at least want to edit it and strip off everything after the "cmi=1505991" bit at the end (it looks like the "cmi" is all that's really required to get to the article. I suspect the "code=" bit is a tracking cookie)..

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

I hope everyone sends them an email telling them to bite me.

And they track the link back to this post. Grrr.

[sweetmegumi.livejournal.com]

"Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.

And treat people as you would have them treat you."

If only more people would follow those words.

I'm trying...

[n6vfp.livejournal.com]

To borrow part of what you said..

"Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.
And treat people as you would have them treat you."

This is now part of my life. I created quite a mess of my life not long ago, and now is my time to make amnends.

I'm trying to live it.

[dwinghy.livejournal.com]

I don't see any cognitive dissonance in the separate concepts of taking responsibility for one's self (no, other people don't make you fat unless you're in a veal cage) and knowing when it's time to cut the dead wood out of your life. For my own part, I take great satisfaction in cutting people out of my life after they've proven, time and again, that they are not worth my time, attention, and effort.
True, most people aren't so dreadful that it has to come to that. But some are, and for those that are, after they've screwed up every fresh chance I've given them, I don't think it's my responsibility to keep them in my life. I don't think it's "reprehensible and short-sighted" to cut out people like that, I think it's the only sensible course of action short of killing them.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

But to do it pre-emptively?

"I get SO depressed around poor people!"

(We'll use the verb "poor" as a placeholder. Insert any societal ill you wish to name.)

It's narsty for anyone - to avoid a group just because? And because it's tough to deal with?

The article (and the book) actively advise you to avoid anyone who annoys you. That's what I hav issue with.

Dealing with difficult people often means setting boundaries - and barriers - but to do it pre-emptively?

That's - unmentionable.

[dwinghy.livejournal.com]

Oh, I guess I didn't read far enough into the article to get to that-- the guy kinda took a while to get to the point. Sorry 'bout that.
Cutting out individuals who've all ready caused you grief is one thing, but to do it pre-emptively to a whole group because they MIGHT annoy you, that's just wrong. There's a word for people who deliberately avoid certain groups or classes of society, and it's not a nice word. It's such bad advice that it's hard to imagine anyone taking it seriously, but at the same time I know there are people out there doing much dumber things because a book told them to.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

People who deserve to die. Yup.