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May. 11th, 2011 01:56 pm
kyburg: (Default)
Good grief, people.

I mean it - and completely without context because some folks just can't handle context.

But good grief people. Grow the FUCK up.

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May. 11th, 2011 01:56 pm
kyburg: (facepalm)
Good grief, people.

I mean it - and completely without context because some folks just can't handle context.

But good grief people. Grow the FUCK up.

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May. 11th, 2011 01:56 pm
kyburg: (facepalm)
Good grief, people.

I mean it - and completely without context because some folks just can't handle context.

But good grief people. Grow the FUCK up.
kyburg: (Default)
Russia threatened to suspend all child adoptions by U.S. families Friday after a 7-year-old boy adopted by a woman from Tennessee was sent alone on a one-way flight back to Moscow with a note saying he was violent and had severe psychological problems.

The boy, Artyom Savelyev, was put on a plane by his adopted grandmother, Nancy Hansen of Shelbyville.

"He drew a picture of our house burning down and he'll tell anybody that he's going to burn our house down with us in it," she told The Associated Press in a telephone interview. "It got to be where you feared for your safety. It was terrible."


A seven year old. That's the age of reason, and the age most adoptees actually begin to 'get it' about the fact they've been adopted. They get sad. They get mad. They've been abandoned by their first families and just now? They get it.

If I were adopting this age, from this place...I'd be *glad* to see this, because I'd then have proof this kid was developing at age level. Seriously. Think about it for a moment - how would you feel?

The other stinker here is that it's the adoptive parent's mother who actually did the deed. Paid off the people on the other side of the flight. Put him on the plane alone. And so far, is the only one answering any questions for the actions of a daughter in her thirties. I don't seen any mention of an adoptive father. Danger danger danger.

I know what I would do. I have resources here at my fingertips, trained professionals to call. 24/7. If he needed residential care, I got it. Hundred years of helping troubled adoptees to call on - foster adopts, international, the works. I've been there for classes - I'd stay there myself in a heartbeat. Danger to themselves or to others - got it in one. They deal with it all the time - it's COMMON. You can treat this - and they do. Every day.

I've been trained to expect this. And don't tell me they didn't have something like it themselves - first person they go to for an expert quote is at Vanderbilt in Nashville, I know the program and it's exceptional. Did they contact their social worker, who only saw them in January? (This also leads me to believe this was a new adoption of less than a year - did the child even have a good grasp of the primary language he would be demanded to acquire to communicate with these two people?) Doesn't appear they did any of these things.

They just returned him to the 'store.' Likely, DCFS wouldn't accept the turnover based on 'I'm tired of this, you do it now' and a very careful plan was put together to take the child's old (but NOT expired yet) Russian passport, book plane tickets in the original Russian name, find someone on the other side to be PAID to meet him at the gate (this REALLY stinks) and take him to the authorities to be quit of him. Nothing was done wrong by INS or the airline. All very neat and tidy.

The fact the child did not cause any noticeable issue during a flight that HAD to be over 12 hours in length? Guys, A SEVEN YEAR OLD. You tell me.

I hope they hang them both and close the agency they used. Poor kid.
kyburg: (Hurt)
Russia threatened to suspend all child adoptions by U.S. families Friday after a 7-year-old boy adopted by a woman from Tennessee was sent alone on a one-way flight back to Moscow with a note saying he was violent and had severe psychological problems.

The boy, Artyom Savelyev, was put on a plane by his adopted grandmother, Nancy Hansen of Shelbyville.

"He drew a picture of our house burning down and he'll tell anybody that he's going to burn our house down with us in it," she told The Associated Press in a telephone interview. "It got to be where you feared for your safety. It was terrible."


A seven year old. That's the age of reason, and the age most adoptees actually begin to 'get it' about the fact they've been adopted. They get sad. They get mad. They've been abandoned by their first families and just now? They get it.

If I were adopting this age, from this place...I'd be *glad* to see this, because I'd then have proof this kid was developing at age level. Seriously. Think about it for a moment - how would you feel?

The other stinker here is that it's the adoptive parent's mother who actually did the deed. Paid off the people on the other side of the flight. Put him on the plane alone. And so far, is the only one answering any questions for the actions of a daughter in her thirties. I don't seen any mention of an adoptive father. Danger danger danger.

I know what I would do. I have resources here at my fingertips, trained professionals to call. 24/7. If he needed residential care, I got it. Hundred years of helping troubled adoptees to call on - foster adopts, international, the works. I've been there for classes - I'd stay there myself in a heartbeat. Danger to themselves or to others - got it in one. They deal with it all the time - it's COMMON. You can treat this - and they do. Every day.

I've been trained to expect this. And don't tell me they didn't have something like it themselves - first person they go to for an expert quote is at Vanderbilt in Nashville, I know the program and it's exceptional. Did they contact their social worker, who only saw them in January? (This also leads me to believe this was a new adoption of less than a year - did the child even have a good grasp of the primary language he would be demanded to acquire to communicate with these two people?) Doesn't appear they did any of these things.

They just returned him to the 'store.' Likely, DCFS wouldn't accept the turnover based on 'I'm tired of this, you do it now' and a very careful plan was put together to take the child's old (but NOT expired yet) Russian passport, book plane tickets in the original Russian name, find someone on the other side to be PAID to meet him at the gate (this REALLY stinks) and take him to the authorities to be quit of him. Nothing was done wrong by INS or the airline. All very neat and tidy.

The fact the child did not cause any noticeable issue during a flight that HAD to be over 12 hours in length? Guys, A SEVEN YEAR OLD. You tell me.

I hope they hang them both and close the agency they used. Poor kid.
kyburg: (Hurt)
Russia threatened to suspend all child adoptions by U.S. families Friday after a 7-year-old boy adopted by a woman from Tennessee was sent alone on a one-way flight back to Moscow with a note saying he was violent and had severe psychological problems.

The boy, Artyom Savelyev, was put on a plane by his adopted grandmother, Nancy Hansen of Shelbyville.

"He drew a picture of our house burning down and he'll tell anybody that he's going to burn our house down with us in it," she told The Associated Press in a telephone interview. "It got to be where you feared for your safety. It was terrible."


A seven year old. That's the age of reason, and the age most adoptees actually begin to 'get it' about the fact they've been adopted. They get sad. They get mad. They've been abandoned by their first families and just now? They get it.

If I were adopting this age, from this place...I'd be *glad* to see this, because I'd then have proof this kid was developing at age level. Seriously. Think about it for a moment - how would you feel?

The other stinker here is that it's the adoptive parent's mother who actually did the deed. Paid off the people on the other side of the flight. Put him on the plane alone. And so far, is the only one answering any questions for the actions of a daughter in her thirties. I don't seen any mention of an adoptive father. Danger danger danger.

I know what I would do. I have resources here at my fingertips, trained professionals to call. 24/7. If he needed residential care, I got it. Hundred years of helping troubled adoptees to call on - foster adopts, international, the works. I've been there for classes - I'd stay there myself in a heartbeat. Danger to themselves or to others - got it in one. They deal with it all the time - it's COMMON. You can treat this - and they do. Every day.

I've been trained to expect this. And don't tell me they didn't have something like it themselves - first person they go to for an expert quote is at Vanderbilt in Nashville, I know the program and it's exceptional. Did they contact their social worker, who only saw them in January? (This also leads me to believe this was a new adoption of less than a year - did the child even have a good grasp of the primary language he would be demanded to acquire to communicate with these two people?) Doesn't appear they did any of these things.

They just returned him to the 'store.' Likely, DCFS wouldn't accept the turnover based on 'I'm tired of this, you do it now' and a very careful plan was put together to take the child's old (but NOT expired yet) Russian passport, book plane tickets in the original Russian name, find someone on the other side to be PAID to meet him at the gate (this REALLY stinks) and take him to the authorities to be quit of him. Nothing was done wrong by INS or the airline. All very neat and tidy.

The fact the child did not cause any noticeable issue during a flight that HAD to be over 12 hours in length? Guys, A SEVEN YEAR OLD. You tell me.

I hope they hang them both and close the agency they used. Poor kid.
kyburg: (Default)
I'm fat, tired and it's all your fault!

Ahem. The title of the book is Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Subtitled?

SCRAPE 'EM OFF.

Um.

Everybody is difficult for someone at some time. Trust me on this. The knack is knowing how to handle difficult people - and the sooner you learn that skill, the better. Ducking the opportunities to do this? Reprehensible and short-sighted. You're going to be one of those "energy vampires" someday - and once everyone has been trained to avoid you, then what?

What comes around, goes around.

Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.

And treat people as you would have them treat you.

And, oh. Remember that the only person you can influence is you. You get very tired trying to manage other people's stuff. Quit it. And don't hesistate to be honest when you don't really want to discuss someone else's gossip with them, okay? That's cool.

REALLY.

Oh, and eDiets? For putting this in my email box? Die.
kyburg: (GET STUFFED)
I'm fat, tired and it's all your fault!

Ahem. The title of the book is Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Subtitled?

SCRAPE 'EM OFF.

Um.

Everybody is difficult for someone at some time. Trust me on this. The knack is knowing how to handle difficult people - and the sooner you learn that skill, the better. Ducking the opportunities to do this? Reprehensible and short-sighted. You're going to be one of those "energy vampires" someday - and once everyone has been trained to avoid you, then what?

What comes around, goes around.

Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.

And treat people as you would have them treat you.

And, oh. Remember that the only person you can influence is you. You get very tired trying to manage other people's stuff. Quit it. And don't hesistate to be honest when you don't really want to discuss someone else's gossip with them, okay? That's cool.

REALLY.

Oh, and eDiets? For putting this in my email box? Die.
kyburg: (GET STUFFED)
I'm fat, tired and it's all your fault!

Ahem. The title of the book is Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Subtitled?

SCRAPE 'EM OFF.

Um.

Everybody is difficult for someone at some time. Trust me on this. The knack is knowing how to handle difficult people - and the sooner you learn that skill, the better. Ducking the opportunities to do this? Reprehensible and short-sighted. You're going to be one of those "energy vampires" someday - and once everyone has been trained to avoid you, then what?

What comes around, goes around.

Do your best.
Clean up your own messes.
Be aware of your impact on others.

And treat people as you would have them treat you.

And, oh. Remember that the only person you can influence is you. You get very tired trying to manage other people's stuff. Quit it. And don't hesistate to be honest when you don't really want to discuss someone else's gossip with them, okay? That's cool.

REALLY.

Oh, and eDiets? For putting this in my email box? Die.

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