I wish -

[kyburg]

I wish I had hated that school. Took kid in this AM to do a 'ride-along' (Jim will be there all day with him) at the Montessori school down in RPV, right on the ocean and OMG can you smell the money-ville.

Right now, I'm glad I don't have to commit to it. Because it was awesome. It's also more expensive, further away from home - will force a work schedule change, putting me home even later than I get there now and putting our work schedules even further out of sync than they are now. More expensive. In every way.

But damn, he did well. And I could see the wheels turning in that little head.

I also had to do the hated 'talking about me while I can hear you' stuff with teachers - about the adoption, about how smart I think he is...all those things, and I know he hates it. Well. Sorry.

But if they show us the door later this week - and this place will accept him - there are worse things. Not cheaper things, worse things.

I just wish I didn't have to think in those terms. Yanno?

He's so much better this week. If this is a teacher issue and not a school issue - well, bother it won't matter much. Current school only has one classroom per grade, a teacher issue IS a school issue.

I just wonder what the 'better' parent thing is. Better school fit and only sees me rested on the weekends - or the make it work fit and more present parent time?

Dither bother bah.

Comments

[sekl.livejournal.com]

Ugh. I know what you mean about longer days and greater expense.

All I have is that Jake blossomed in a class where the teacher wasn't a jerk and that improved our quality of life over all. I could get back to work, not worrying that he and "Teacher Pam" were having a bad day or that she was crushing him. Switching schools was a lot of paperwork, frustration and change, but it was the right thing for Jake.

Only you can get a feel what is right for your son and your own health.

[murphymom.livejournal.com]

It's easy to fall back on the old "quality time vs. quantity time" argument, but this is one instance when it actually applies. It's better for everyone for him to see you tired but not all wound up over his situation during the week and having you relazed and able to enjoy him on the weekends than to have an hour or so a day when you might be more rested but are definitely going to be uptight waiting for the other shoe to drop. And from what you've described, the poor little tyke is quite capable of thinking he's the cause of everything, which is NOT going to be helpful.

[drlaurac.livejournal.com]

I know you'll make the best choice for y'all, and every family is so different.
I do have to say that Alex was looking like a special education candidate to the public school, but once we had 2 weeks in Montessori under our belt, he's been a totally different child. So much easier to deal with all the time. I wish y'all the most perfect possible solution.

[callibr8]

Our kids thrived in a Montessori environment. We loved the facility they've just aged out of. Yeah, it's expensive, but if you can afford it at all, I really think it's worth it, for all your sakes.

Is there anyone that you could make arrangements for someone else to take him to school, even a couple of days per week? Maybe a high school or college age kid you could hire? Might be a way to fill in the time gap that seems to be a factor here.

I'm wishing for best outcome for all of you.

[pixievixen.livejournal.com]

anjolie has really flourished in montessori. it is definitely money that could help around here, but i can't wrap my head around taking her out and putting her in public when i see what she's learning & how happy she is there.