This might surprise you -
Mar. 11th, 2006 11:17 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburgBut if a guy wants to opt out of child support, before the child is born?
As long as ending the pregnancy is an option, no questions asked -
Sure.
As long as this decision is made before the child is born - and can be made before the child is born.
No, state and local governments. You can't go back to someone who inadvertantly acted as sperm donor and you want to recoup your losses when she showed up for assistance, five years or more later. You can refuse services - until she can't take care of the child and then remove the child and terminate her parental rights, too. You could, you know.
Boy, that'll show 'em. But no, it's not a matter of handing over the kid to the second parent once the first one's been tagged as incompetent.
(I'm of two minds about having to notify the second parent when the first one didn't, once a child is in care. I could ask the DCFS social worker about how they approach that now. Something tells me they don't just find a DNA match and snap, the job's over.)
You may want to have children.
I'm telling you. It's not your right to have children, in spite of being able to provide for them or not.
If you won't think about someone other than yourself in matters like this - I don't want you make decisions for someone who won't even be visible to society until school age.
Children are not a necessity in today's world - they are a luxury that has to be measured in their impact. That's harsh, but that's also true.
But mind you. You can't have one without the other.
You want to make it possible for men to opt-out?
You have to make it possible for women to opt-out as well.
Ultimately, you're dealing with an equation that has no room for the unborn - and when people are considering these steps, there never will be room.
Deal with the reasons a woman needs an abortion, folks. Making it illegal won't do a dick thing about it otherwise.
I don't think it's fair to make men responsible for pregnancies they didn't want.
And it's not fair to make women responsible for pregnancies they didn't want, either.
As long as ending the pregnancy is an option, no questions asked -
Sure.
As long as this decision is made before the child is born - and can be made before the child is born.
No, state and local governments. You can't go back to someone who inadvertantly acted as sperm donor and you want to recoup your losses when she showed up for assistance, five years or more later. You can refuse services - until she can't take care of the child and then remove the child and terminate her parental rights, too. You could, you know.
Boy, that'll show 'em. But no, it's not a matter of handing over the kid to the second parent once the first one's been tagged as incompetent.
(I'm of two minds about having to notify the second parent when the first one didn't, once a child is in care. I could ask the DCFS social worker about how they approach that now. Something tells me they don't just find a DNA match and snap, the job's over.)
You may want to have children.
I'm telling you. It's not your right to have children, in spite of being able to provide for them or not.
If you won't think about someone other than yourself in matters like this - I don't want you make decisions for someone who won't even be visible to society until school age.
Children are not a necessity in today's world - they are a luxury that has to be measured in their impact. That's harsh, but that's also true.
But mind you. You can't have one without the other.
You want to make it possible for men to opt-out?
You have to make it possible for women to opt-out as well.
Ultimately, you're dealing with an equation that has no room for the unborn - and when people are considering these steps, there never will be room.
Deal with the reasons a woman needs an abortion, folks. Making it illegal won't do a dick thing about it otherwise.
I don't think it's fair to make men responsible for pregnancies they didn't want.
And it's not fair to make women responsible for pregnancies they didn't want, either.
