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kyburgSo my sister calls me yesterday and says she has a Christmas charity group that needs shoes - doesn't even drop me an email with the sizes, noooo, too busy - she gives them to me on a cell phone as I'm driving to work.
Last night, I came home and died. I was that tired.
So I went out this morning, and tried two warehouse stores before I got to a store that was open (I'm heading out to Loma Linda, and early too - Jim has to have the car back for work tonight) - and discovered that Family Days ended last night. After the order was rung up.
Hey, I did the best I could - found the cheapest rung sneakers and I got one pair half off in spite of the program ending.
And I take them to my sister's house, before I go out to Loma Linda.
I apologize ahead of handing them to her - but she wasn't listening.
When she got the bill, she handed me a ration of how thoughtless I had been - now, I'll take I could have called, but in my defense, I really had heard GET SHOES THEY NEED THEM HURRRR - and no, I hadn't been given a budget.
The corker was being told "don't get angry at me about this. You can't get angry at me over this."
I what? *blinks*
I got out of there. This is my first chance to see my Mom since surgery - and I gotta go.
But by the time I get halfway there, I realize I need to clarify a point. So I call her.
"Drop it, Donna."
I offered to return the shoes. No, no -
But I then said to her, "I need to make something clear, and then I'll drop it. You can't tell me what can and can't feel. That's really what I'm upset about."
I got an earful of pscyhobabble with "You seem to need to be angry at me."
"Whatever..." And I hung up.
BTW, she bought Mom a recliner for Christmas and is asking $200 towards the price of it - if I want to be included. Did she ask me if the cost was okay before buying it? No.
But I'm supposed to stop everything if - gee, how much did I have to spend, anyway - I go over some set amount.
How many house fires have I sent shoes out for this year, folks? Did I count the cost? Did I ask for so much as a thank you?
Skip that. Consider for a moment - this is the person I've set up as my backup when we adopt. I'm getting concerned that if I do have to call her in, she's only going to do as much as she wants...and QUIT. Not until the work is done...when she is done.
And setting aside how frustrated I am right now, that's dangerous.
I give up. I'd like to have a sister I can count on - I know she can count on me, but no chance of having that recognized, is there?
I think I'd better find someone else to act as backup. And I think I know just the family - they're co-workers of mine.
I didn't ask for this.
Last night, I came home and died. I was that tired.
So I went out this morning, and tried two warehouse stores before I got to a store that was open (I'm heading out to Loma Linda, and early too - Jim has to have the car back for work tonight) - and discovered that Family Days ended last night. After the order was rung up.
Hey, I did the best I could - found the cheapest rung sneakers and I got one pair half off in spite of the program ending.
And I take them to my sister's house, before I go out to Loma Linda.
I apologize ahead of handing them to her - but she wasn't listening.
When she got the bill, she handed me a ration of how thoughtless I had been - now, I'll take I could have called, but in my defense, I really had heard GET SHOES THEY NEED THEM HURRRR - and no, I hadn't been given a budget.
The corker was being told "don't get angry at me about this. You can't get angry at me over this."
I what? *blinks*
I got out of there. This is my first chance to see my Mom since surgery - and I gotta go.
But by the time I get halfway there, I realize I need to clarify a point. So I call her.
"Drop it, Donna."
I offered to return the shoes. No, no -
But I then said to her, "I need to make something clear, and then I'll drop it. You can't tell me what can and can't feel. That's really what I'm upset about."
I got an earful of pscyhobabble with "You seem to need to be angry at me."
"Whatever..." And I hung up.
BTW, she bought Mom a recliner for Christmas and is asking $200 towards the price of it - if I want to be included. Did she ask me if the cost was okay before buying it? No.
But I'm supposed to stop everything if - gee, how much did I have to spend, anyway - I go over some set amount.
How many house fires have I sent shoes out for this year, folks? Did I count the cost? Did I ask for so much as a thank you?
Skip that. Consider for a moment - this is the person I've set up as my backup when we adopt. I'm getting concerned that if I do have to call her in, she's only going to do as much as she wants...and QUIT. Not until the work is done...when she is done.
And setting aside how frustrated I am right now, that's dangerous.
I give up. I'd like to have a sister I can count on - I know she can count on me, but no chance of having that recognized, is there?
I think I'd better find someone else to act as backup. And I think I know just the family - they're co-workers of mine.
I didn't ask for this.
