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Sometimes, if you really want to try, you can lsither in a suggestion for improvement after you've let them cry themselves out, after you've spenta n hour letting them get the support they want from you, after they've bitched themselves out. Sometimes.

Other times - well, yeah, you got to walk.

I'm in a situation right now where a certain someone treated a handful of my friends really, realy badly and created more drama in my circle since her arrival than the last threemajor breakups - hell, than anything else I can recall in ten years. This person is a manipulative damaged real prize case, but on some people, that flirty little-girl crap still works. And since everything's from her point of view, when she says she's the victim, somehow everyone else was the cause... If I had my druthers I'd drop her like a hot rock and tell her exactly why. Unfortunately, she's latched onto a lonely friend of mine like a leech and the two of them are best friends - although I think the little snip is taking everything she can get.

I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to offend my dear old friend, but her current leech-attachment I can't stand, and I am condemned to meet them socially. I'm afraid my friend's being used, and worse, that she's going to get hurt badly out of it. And the fracture lines in our little group are ugly to see.

I don't take sides in this crap if I can possibly help it. I've always been the peacemaker, the ones who try to keep the social wheels well-lubed and try to find solutions. In this case, the solution requires the little miss to attend some serious therapy and possibly medication - I believe she has everything she needs for a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder, plus a history of abuse and a strong narcissistic streak. Given a few years and a good therapist, she might turn out okay. She's not still in therapy as far as I know, and she is a wlking time bomb for another explosion of lies, deceit, drama and disaster among my social circle. I hate seeing my firends get hurt. And the little miss never takes responsibility for her actions, and she's always the victim, and so she won't get the blame, and it'll happen again...

I'm by no means the only one who's sussed her, but everyone who has is accidentally or purosefully ranged on soemone else's side in the last big drama she caused - so nobody's going to listen to us because we're friends with "that bitch" rather than little miss. And little miss pours her poisonous lies in the ears of the heretofore unaffected... and since I'm too disabled these days to get out and about and to all the parties, I lack the social influence I once had, and could use to undo her poisons. ("that bitch" has been ostracized and in-invited and treated like dirt - for dating littlemiss' ex, basically.)

Jesus fishes on the cars! I'm sorry, I didn't mean to go off like that! Not having anyone outside the social circle to ask for advice on this one or even to bitch to must have gotten to me. Not to mention having a waltzing time bomb in my gang and no way to defuse it... Gah!

Allow me to Spackle my mouth, please.