I love being a girl - NOT
May. 16th, 2006 01:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburgOh hell, it's not like I haven't heard it before.
One of the interesting conversations I had with![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
riverheart while she was here involved having children - or more accurately, how one can build a family when you don't easily conceive your own children.
She was pretty bummed about her own health status standing in the way of having her own; and adoption also looking somewhat dicey due to both she and her fella aging out of some programs (well, you can, I guess...) due to their combined age.
Really, in today's age - you can have your own, or you can spend a mint trying to - if you're willing to do it. Shoot, at the worst, you can find a surrogate, get some viable fertilized embryos between you and your partner, and go for it that way.
If you're willing to take that risk - and spend the funds. Really - if conception isn't an accident or a happy event, there are means.
For me, having my own just didn't make sense if there were already children who needed me - and the cost was comparable. Or less, frankly.
You get down to those terms.
But I'm sure you've already seen the buzz this morning - latest goverment guidelines are calling for all women between 15 and 55 to be considered 'pre-pregnant,' regardless of her intentions to ever/never have children.
Folks, my OB-GYN wouldn't even discuss my having children myself. He simply referred me to Dr. Whiz-Bang. 2% chance, at best, he said.
And even I would be considered "pre-pregnant" under the guidelines, if a decision had to be made for a course of treament for whatever.
Because, well, our infant mortality rate sucks rocks, to be blunt. Couldn't possibly have anything to do with the total lack of available, on-demand, health care if you can't afford a burger at McDonalds, could it? You know. Something with continuity and consistency of care. Yanno.
And there is nothing on looking at the men as possible contributors to the whole mess, either. How about their health status? HUH?
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Dumbasses.....
One of the interesting conversations I had with
riverheart while she was here involved having children - or more accurately, how one can build a family when you don't easily conceive your own children.She was pretty bummed about her own health status standing in the way of having her own; and adoption also looking somewhat dicey due to both she and her fella aging out of some programs (well, you can, I guess...) due to their combined age.
Really, in today's age - you can have your own, or you can spend a mint trying to - if you're willing to do it. Shoot, at the worst, you can find a surrogate, get some viable fertilized embryos between you and your partner, and go for it that way.
If you're willing to take that risk - and spend the funds. Really - if conception isn't an accident or a happy event, there are means.
For me, having my own just didn't make sense if there were already children who needed me - and the cost was comparable. Or less, frankly.
You get down to those terms.
But I'm sure you've already seen the buzz this morning - latest goverment guidelines are calling for all women between 15 and 55 to be considered 'pre-pregnant,' regardless of her intentions to ever/never have children.
Folks, my OB-GYN wouldn't even discuss my having children myself. He simply referred me to Dr. Whiz-Bang. 2% chance, at best, he said.
And even I would be considered "pre-pregnant" under the guidelines, if a decision had to be made for a course of treament for whatever.
Because, well, our infant mortality rate sucks rocks, to be blunt. Couldn't possibly have anything to do with the total lack of available, on-demand, health care if you can't afford a burger at McDonalds, could it? You know. Something with continuity and consistency of care. Yanno.
And there is nothing on looking at the men as possible contributors to the whole mess, either. How about their health status? HUH?
One Two Three
Dumbasses.....
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Date: 2006-05-16 09:18 pm (UTC)...regards body which is in the throes of perimenopause...
Bwahahahahahahahah!
Ahem.
Dumbasses.
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Date: 2006-05-16 11:08 pm (UTC)I was just going to complain about how every single time I have to get something done at the clinic-o-death (x-ray, study stuff, blood draw) they have to give me a pregnancy test. I remember back in the old days when someone's word meant something and they used to just ask "any chance you might be pregnant" and a simple no cleared it up, now it's as though they either don't trust me or are looking for divine intervention. I know it's just policy but sheesh.
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Date: 2006-05-16 11:31 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-05-17 12:06 am (UTC)Though I don't want children, am not sexually active, and tend towards the lesbian end of the bi-meter for the most part. It's the fact that I might be preggers someday that's important!
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Date: 2006-05-17 02:51 am (UTC)