I has a limpet.
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kyburgI took a look at the readoption paperwork last night and read the social worker's report. I have to give her credit, she really was paying attention. (And I'm both relieved and very, very pleased.)
She put into the report (which will become a legal record, publically recorded forever) that he has a sweet nature. If there was one thing I want left behind cast in stone? There it is.
It made the transition all the harder, to be honest. I couldn't stand to be anything other than wonderful - and of course, wasn't (sick, tired, overbooked, angry and did I mention sick?) - which made it all the harder. He literally just looked at me, confused about what was going on - but never got angry at me. If he could have helped me at any point, he would have - and did.
I may have to come back to this in ten years to remember when he's fourteen and hates me - but right now? He's never so much as pulled a cat's tail (we've had to remind him to keep fingers away from the sharp end, can't blame him - he's four and what DO whiskers do, anyway?) and he's never done anything in anger but tell us about it. He can hit - oh baby, yes he can - if you provoke him. But cruelty would likely confound him as much as it does me.
It's a glowing report, to be frank. I'm going to copy the packet before we file it on Friday - it has to be done locally, so I can't do it by myself from work and it makes sense for all of us to do it together. (Jim has Fridays off. Only one of us has to miss work to make something on a Friday.)
Something I've noted, relative to Chinese being the first language, is that we haven't gotten the 'whys' yet. You know - "Why is the sky blue? Why - why - why" And you end up saying 'BECAUSE' for the win (and to end the chain). Well, Chinese really doesn't allow for unassociated indicators - you don't say just yes or no, for example - those indicators are associated with a subject. You 'don't want this' - or you 'agree with that.' But it's never just an up or down. So Xander's 'why' always has a direction - 'What doing? Where going?'
This applies to kitties and the sun before it comes up, equally. Over and over until satisfied.
(Rs, Ts, Ss are frustrating the heck out of him. Ls too. Lunch box and SpongeBob sound almost alike. Phinneas & Ferb is 'Fub.' It'll get better.)
He's also going for the quick cuddle - and will grab hems and hands for him to give him a hug as I go past. Awww. Waking up, going to sleep - where am I, and how fast can I get a snuggle?
Did I mention we've had our first go-round with What Happened? Jim was cleaning off files, looking at pictures on his laptop with kiddo looking along with him - and then came across pictures of him with his foster family in Taiwan. Well, you have two Mamas and Babas - how do you figure that out?
He just kind of bounced around on the bed (Saturday morning, after all) and announced he liked me better. Oooohkay. But he's pretty good with 'he had a Mama and Baba there and now he has a Mama and a Baba here.' I can see where the anxiety over Best Day Ever before Worst Day Ever has its roots, so I can do something about that (we need to get our script and act together, but he'd get it now) - but he doesn't have much concern over the loss of his first parents...yet. He's got enough dealing with the loss of foster family and discovery of his final family, neh?
But I has a limpet. And he's very cute.
She put into the report (which will become a legal record, publically recorded forever) that he has a sweet nature. If there was one thing I want left behind cast in stone? There it is.
It made the transition all the harder, to be honest. I couldn't stand to be anything other than wonderful - and of course, wasn't (sick, tired, overbooked, angry and did I mention sick?) - which made it all the harder. He literally just looked at me, confused about what was going on - but never got angry at me. If he could have helped me at any point, he would have - and did.
I may have to come back to this in ten years to remember when he's fourteen and hates me - but right now? He's never so much as pulled a cat's tail (we've had to remind him to keep fingers away from the sharp end, can't blame him - he's four and what DO whiskers do, anyway?) and he's never done anything in anger but tell us about it. He can hit - oh baby, yes he can - if you provoke him. But cruelty would likely confound him as much as it does me.
It's a glowing report, to be frank. I'm going to copy the packet before we file it on Friday - it has to be done locally, so I can't do it by myself from work and it makes sense for all of us to do it together. (Jim has Fridays off. Only one of us has to miss work to make something on a Friday.)
Something I've noted, relative to Chinese being the first language, is that we haven't gotten the 'whys' yet. You know - "Why is the sky blue? Why - why - why" And you end up saying 'BECAUSE' for the win (and to end the chain). Well, Chinese really doesn't allow for unassociated indicators - you don't say just yes or no, for example - those indicators are associated with a subject. You 'don't want this' - or you 'agree with that.' But it's never just an up or down. So Xander's 'why' always has a direction - 'What doing? Where going?'
This applies to kitties and the sun before it comes up, equally. Over and over until satisfied.
(Rs, Ts, Ss are frustrating the heck out of him. Ls too. Lunch box and SpongeBob sound almost alike. Phinneas & Ferb is 'Fub.' It'll get better.)
He's also going for the quick cuddle - and will grab hems and hands for him to give him a hug as I go past. Awww. Waking up, going to sleep - where am I, and how fast can I get a snuggle?
Did I mention we've had our first go-round with What Happened? Jim was cleaning off files, looking at pictures on his laptop with kiddo looking along with him - and then came across pictures of him with his foster family in Taiwan. Well, you have two Mamas and Babas - how do you figure that out?
He just kind of bounced around on the bed (Saturday morning, after all) and announced he liked me better. Oooohkay. But he's pretty good with 'he had a Mama and Baba there and now he has a Mama and a Baba here.' I can see where the anxiety over Best Day Ever before Worst Day Ever has its roots, so I can do something about that (we need to get our script and act together, but he'd get it now) - but he doesn't have much concern over the loss of his first parents...yet. He's got enough dealing with the loss of foster family and discovery of his final family, neh?
But I has a limpet. And he's very cute.
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Date: 2009-09-23 06:50 pm (UTC)ing wei. (Because...)
That will likely end up in a loop. *wry*
(pardon the lousy pin-yin...)
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Date: 2009-09-24 02:58 am (UTC)One, the layer that happens in the country of origin - in this case, Taiwan. That paperwork was finished in their courts January 7th.
Our offices there issued him a visa to come to the United States as an immigrant, making him a citizen the moment he hit the ground at LAX.
Readoption completes the work on this side - issuing him a name change, a new birth certificate and all the legalities of being our kid. The adoption work in Taiwan allowed us to bring him home, put him on insurance and so on. The readoption 'cleans up' the paperwork, changing his name permanently and making his birth certificate (absolute fraud that it will be, but there you go) *much* easier to obtain and deal with. He would be able to get a US Passport, for example - right now, not so much.
And once this process is done, I register him with the Swiss consulate, and he becomes a Swiss citizen like I am.
So there you go - he gets to have citizenship in three countries, once this is finished.
We have to appear before a judge to finish this - and it's a duty they LOVE to do. Expect cute pictures. We'll be wearing Hawaiian shirts.
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