First day at kindergarden

[kyburg]

And it started yesterday with me bringing kid home early due to just not being able to stay in care one more minute without someone blowing a gasket at daycare. I mean - eating your lunch in the director's office because you can't sit and do it with your friends? And then still not getting it?

When he wouldn't nap, I took him home. He slept for nearly three hours. He then got it, chapter and verse, that no - we're not going to wheedle any more. You do - or do not - but if you do not, there are consequences.

One of them was the Daddy huggy at bedtime because he decided it would be better to be naughty instead. Uh no.

Man, all the apologies in the world and demands? Didn't get the huggy back. Who knew?

He's going to need to eat before going to school - new school doesn't do breakfasts, only lunch and snacks. Breakfast this AM? Let's see how long I can drag this out. Um, nope. That didn't work either.

I see a kid going hungry a few times in the near future until he figures it out. He surely did in foster care, but one can hope this will resolve. Trying to remember me at this age, I'm pretty sure some additional 'aids' were employed, including spankings and worse. (I know I spent a lot of time alone at the table after everyone else had left - sit me in front of cold, steamed spinach? I still can't eat that stuff.)

We got in, signed in and introduced - and kid essentially shut down. In the morning, this class draws and reads books. Old school? Toy play - and often more aggressive play than I was happy with. That's going to take some getting used to. (No, you will not get to make guns out of Legos and chase your friends around the room.) I talked him into drawing Daddy a picture, said my goodbyes - updated the teacher on yesterday's escapades and left for work. Felt like I just thrown him to very polite, orderly lions. They have awesome fish, though.

Got in earlier, even stopped at a better Starbucks - all good things. I just feel for him, though. And hate how breakfast didn't come together. Work in progress - guess I'm going to have to choose my battles with more care. (And not let Daddy decide that food that is a toy is what's for breakfast.)

Not a fun job today. Or an adventure.

Comments

[lesliepear.livejournal.com]

It sounds like this is more academic than the other place.
I am sure he will adjust. He will probably miss his friends.

As far as breakfast goes, Alan isn't an eater either. But there are somethings he does eat for breakfast. He eats cold cereal dry, or sometimes yogurt or corn muffins. Not the greatest, but at least he wont have any empty stomach.

[murphymom.livejournal.com]

The younger daughter's best friend was a non-breakfast eater as well - except for baked potatoes. Thank heaven for microwaves.

[sekl.livejournal.com]

For the first few weeks, I gave Sean an out. There was a granola bar in the car if you didn't finish your cereal on time. That way he had something in his stomach to help him face all the new. It made a difference behaviorally. He still took two months to adjust (because we do not do change, oh no) but it helped with the acting out.

[ms-hecubus.livejournal.com]

Is the huggy a toy or an actual hug? Because using affection as a punishment?