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We got a break Thursday. A HUGE one.

I can dance on desks. I know how health care organizations go together in my state (oh boy, do I) - that, plus plenty of motivation to do something RIGHT NOW OR ELSE created a situation last week where I was on the phone most of every spare moment talking to case managers (at least three of them) insisting my kid needed services NOW NOW NOW.

Thursday afternoon, 4:30 PM, we got an appointment with Kaiser 8:30 AM the next morning. We took it.

We got him in, worked up and we can now get services appropriate to an adoptee suffering from separation anxiety (whether it is actually a disorder or just features, TBD) and my kid now gets a break. I can insist on shorter days. I can insist on one of us sitting in the classroom. I can INSIST on what I know will help.

And I got some advice on sleeping that is working like a treat. It was suggested I play music at night to dampen the hyper-vigilance of 'what is THAT' when the house shifted at night. So I went and got an iDog at the local toy store and hooked up the shuffle to it.

We quickly found that playing the music we had played going to school the past two years put kid out in minutes, as opposed to hours. Last night, he fought it a bit (hey, a three hour nap will do that - he was only tired, not exhausted), but it still shortened the length of time to sleep considerably. Also, it stopped making us the mean parents insisting on compliance, this was fun - all win.

The approach of 'what can we put BACK?' helps the most. He's getting a lunch packed again every morning - instead of being made to eat whatever is on the menu. He plays learning games on my iPod on the drive over. You never really think of everything that changes with a change in location, but those had gone completely under the radar. Little things.

I still see a stressed kid when his Dad isn't around, but it isn't as complete a lock up.

But you ought to see my calendar. Holy crap, it's a total dance card from hell.

Tomorrow, a ride along at the Montessori School near the water - cross fingers. I'm hoping - half dreading - that this will be a better fit. Hoping, because we keep control over the school environment. Dreading, because it's costlier and more driving that we have now. Regardless, kid will be getting therapy going forward for this - hopefully, we 'll see it wane. And he'll get better at managing it himself, instead of us modifying everything around him (which we are seriously doing right now, and have since he came home).

The finances are a wreck. No surprise there, right? Oh, and his birthday party is in two weeks. Watch me pulling flying monkeys out of my ass!

Date: 2011-08-01 06:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lokabrenna.livejournal.com
I hope they are small monkeys!

Date: 2011-08-01 07:48 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
Want to draw me some cute ones for my Mommy cards? Oh dear ghads, pleeeease?

Date: 2011-08-01 08:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lokabrenna.livejournal.com
HAHAHA. Just the flying monkeys? Or flying monkeys emerging from a butt??

Date: 2011-08-01 09:36 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
It has to go on Mommy cards - which probably means, has to be safe for - yanno - general consumption.

People who know me, will get the joke. Promise.

Date: 2011-08-08 08:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lokabrenna.livejournal.com
Hey, I think I can actually swing this picture for you—this week doesn't seem too insane as far as work goes. When do you need it? (I work best with a deadline!)

Date: 2011-08-08 10:52 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
Heh. Okay. I would love to have this to make cards ASAP - so, anytime before Labor Day would be awesome.

Date: 2011-08-01 06:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] murphymom.livejournal.com
Montessori may well be a better fit - the philosphy behind it is predicated on meeting the child where the child stands and nurturing and supporting development. There is one caveat about ANY private school, however, which is that they (generally) have no incentive to serve your (generic "your") child's individual needs, because there is always another child ready to take your child's place.

Date: 2011-08-01 07:47 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
*nods* But they want to see him in their setting first. I have to give them that much. If they'll take him, they take him knowing what they're up against.

Date: 2011-08-01 08:20 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] murphymom.livejournal.com
And that is a good thing, yes -

Date: 2011-08-01 08:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sekl.livejournal.com
Awesome. Just keep swimming.

And be sure to wash the flying monkeys before putting them on the cake or using them as birthday decorations. It's the little things I always forget.

Date: 2011-08-02 04:11 pm (UTC)
ext_20420: (chai chai again)
From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
Lemony fresh!

Date: 2011-08-02 02:19 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] callibr8
Perseverance and tenacity for the win! I'm glad that there's been a breakthrough and improvement. Here's hoping that the positive trend continues!

Date: 2011-08-02 04:11 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
See today's entry. Trending!

Date: 2011-08-02 03:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amanda-nye.livejournal.com
Anything needed for the bday where I can chip in online? I'll help on even the boring stuff like plates & cups. Sound like he (and you) could use a break and some fun.

Amazon wishlist or somesuch?

Date: 2011-08-02 04:12 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
Send it down with Rey - ^^

(And thanks.)

Date: 2011-08-02 07:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] amanda-nye.livejournal.com
That requires finding Rey. not so easy. Send me an email or something, let me know what you need / want. I can always mail if I can't find the Asian.

amanda.nye at gmail

Date: 2011-08-02 09:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
Really? I will ask him to find you, then! You are at least stationary!

Date: 2011-08-02 02:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dandelion-diva.livejournal.com
I'm so glad things are improving and that y'all are getting help. :)

Date: 2011-08-02 04:12 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] kyburg.livejournal.com
You and me both.

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