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kyburgIsn't parenting about setting limits and controlling behavior?
"It is according to everybody else but me," he says. "Let children be themselves. To me, that's almost a bottom line."
Obviously, the subject is too nuanced to explore here.
Still, I figured I better talk to at least one expert, so I picked middle Wasserman son Craig, 41, one of the two boys who are attorneys. The eldest is a doctor.
and
"A child who is emotionally abused believes that he or she is not a good person, is constantly a failure, and so [that] sets the child up to fail," said Barbara Oliver, director of Prevent Child Abuse-Orange County.
Often, she said, emotionally abused children turn to drugs or other criminal behavior "to get the nurturing and love" missing from their lives."
The abuse went from when he was 12 to 14. It took another two years for him to have his day in court. It will be another two years before we can know his name...it appears he's had a good experience with foster care, God help him.
I think it has a whole lot more to do with the kid, personally. Stuff that worked with me foundered with my sister. I'm a stiffer disciplinarian than she is today. Getting locked up, desperate and angry is clearly not the answer.
I think of Tobie and shake my head. Two years. Two years. Two years...and it's starting at much the same age.
"It is according to everybody else but me," he says. "Let children be themselves. To me, that's almost a bottom line."
Obviously, the subject is too nuanced to explore here.
Still, I figured I better talk to at least one expert, so I picked middle Wasserman son Craig, 41, one of the two boys who are attorneys. The eldest is a doctor.
and
"A child who is emotionally abused believes that he or she is not a good person, is constantly a failure, and so [that] sets the child up to fail," said Barbara Oliver, director of Prevent Child Abuse-Orange County.
Often, she said, emotionally abused children turn to drugs or other criminal behavior "to get the nurturing and love" missing from their lives."
The abuse went from when he was 12 to 14. It took another two years for him to have his day in court. It will be another two years before we can know his name...it appears he's had a good experience with foster care, God help him.
I think it has a whole lot more to do with the kid, personally. Stuff that worked with me foundered with my sister. I'm a stiffer disciplinarian than she is today. Getting locked up, desperate and angry is clearly not the answer.
I think of Tobie and shake my head. Two years. Two years. Two years...and it's starting at much the same age.
