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kyburgOf course, I'd find some I liked.
Here, have two.
Crabmommy - one of the best quotes so far?
I'm meant to say that the best part of my day was coming home to see my lovely child and husband. But I won't. Because that's not true. I do like a lady who doesn't sugar-coat, and isn't afraid of stepping out of What's Expected.
And she pointed me at Ayelet Waldman, who I find fascintating...and will be in my neighborhood on the 27th. Maybe I'll get there. I doubt it, because that's the witching hour of his nibs. See, she's got a new book out - and, yanno.
I have to agree with her. There's a tune I adore out there about a romance that lasted over 40 years, about the couple whose children 'came and went like seasons turning' - and that resonates with me.
What, with me who waited all this time (and trouble) just to have the one? Absolutely. (That's the normal order of things, and lot of my frustration was wrapped up in the muddle of 'this REALLY doesn't make sense' while we spent hour after day after year trying to make it happen.)
A normal child/parent relationship starts out welded at the hip, and as it grows...separates as the child pulls away, becoming their own person, able to stand on their own; secure, self-aware and ready to take on anything that comes.
It's the only relationship that if it is healthy, does that.
Jim will stay - the kids will go, in time. If we do our job, they'll be just fine. As I think someone else once told me - we have our own friends, as the kids have theirs. As parents, we're not friends with our kids - we're their parents. And that's different.
I hope once they're grown, the kids will remain friends, like I have with my sibs and mother. But, no guarantee.
(Looking at this article and deciding how you feel by how it would impact you if you LOST someone is very difficult read. But some people just wouldn't get it otherwise, methinks.)
Here, have two.
Crabmommy - one of the best quotes so far?
I'm meant to say that the best part of my day was coming home to see my lovely child and husband. But I won't. Because that's not true. I do like a lady who doesn't sugar-coat, and isn't afraid of stepping out of What's Expected.
And she pointed me at Ayelet Waldman, who I find fascintating...and will be in my neighborhood on the 27th. Maybe I'll get there. I doubt it, because that's the witching hour of his nibs. See, she's got a new book out - and, yanno.
I have to agree with her. There's a tune I adore out there about a romance that lasted over 40 years, about the couple whose children 'came and went like seasons turning' - and that resonates with me.
What, with me who waited all this time (and trouble) just to have the one? Absolutely. (That's the normal order of things, and lot of my frustration was wrapped up in the muddle of 'this REALLY doesn't make sense' while we spent hour after day after year trying to make it happen.)
A normal child/parent relationship starts out welded at the hip, and as it grows...separates as the child pulls away, becoming their own person, able to stand on their own; secure, self-aware and ready to take on anything that comes.
It's the only relationship that if it is healthy, does that.
Jim will stay - the kids will go, in time. If we do our job, they'll be just fine. As I think someone else once told me - we have our own friends, as the kids have theirs. As parents, we're not friends with our kids - we're their parents. And that's different.
I hope once they're grown, the kids will remain friends, like I have with my sibs and mother. But, no guarantee.
(Looking at this article and deciding how you feel by how it would impact you if you LOST someone is very difficult read. But some people just wouldn't get it otherwise, methinks.)
