A quick lesson...

[kyburg]

Moving to California will not solve all your problems.

Comments

[johno.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, looks like things did go well for many many years.

It was only the last few that things crashed and burned.

What whould life had been like for Chuck if he stayed in Ok?

*sigh*

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Unknown.

I do know you don't need as much income to manage there as you do here.

In the same issue of the paper, there's an article on children living in poverty that says that California is not among the norms - I think the figure was 48% of children living in poverty, did so with two parent, working families.

Do what you're supposed to, still don't make it. Sheesh.

Diminishing returns dimimishing daily....

Re: *sigh*

[ulesegisa.livejournal.com]

Also

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

I probably should change that statement to read "Staying in CA" or "Just being in CA" - somehow, the story doesn't specify the conditions he left as well as the nastiness the situation degenerated to in California.

And also, someone has to notice the absolute devastation drug use had. Surely.

Not a trend...

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

It's one of those things created out of necessity...often, you will hear oldsters talk about "pea-patch cousins," those folks who shared living space with your family of origin.

Necessity is often a real muthah - and this is oft the result. Done by choice is one thing - done out of necessity, another.

Talk to silverkun about my friends the Hartmans. 6 adults, 9 children in a house less than 2000sq'. Ask varna about her household of three adults, 4 soon to be 5 children.

And frankly, the one who stays home, get shit on. That's been my experience.

Re: Not a trend...

[ulesegisa.livejournal.com]

Re: Not a trend...

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Having been the full time caregiver, I can say with authority that it's nothing special. Really. Trust me on this. You get nothing for being special. Well, maybe a pat on the head and get complimented now and again. That and $5 will get you a latte at Starbucks, long term.

Communication is tough under any circumstances. Stress the circumstances and it's the first thing to go.

Honesty? Welcome to the dance of deception.

Compromise. Well, as long as someone is willing to try it. However, note the response on circumstances. It's the second thing to go.

Switching roles...never. Once you have what you want, few people want anything less or will settle for less. Not for long.