Friday!

[kyburg]

Oh, wait. I have CERT tomorrow. Better get that reading done, it's first-aid tomorrow!

Think they're going to scare me? I think we're going to hear about how I re-size up people not breathing while having seizures - maybe. I turn into a regular motor-mouth, and I cringe to think of hearing the 911 calls I've made over the years while I had someone faint/seize/etc. on me, and stop breathing.

I never lost anyone - which is rare.

Jim's home sick today - hoorah. He works both days this weekend, double-booyah, nrrggg.

Mom turned 80 yesterday - and I'll go out Sunday for a little quality time. Also coming in are some old AX acquaintances for a funeral of their own - no place to stay, no money to get a rental car or airfare, same old story - but when you lose a parent, you find a way to get there for the funeral. I got room, and some mac and cheese.

ginmar asks the question - if a woman is in an abusive relationship, why doesn't she just leave? Nah, not going to give you the link - go over and read the journal, she's worth the time.

Me? If you want her to leave, you'd better give her a place to go to. Won't do that? STFU.

And that's why I work resources as hard as I do - there aren't many left out there, but if you bring this to me, I'll do what I can.

I've been tempted to empty out the not-built-to-code, OMIGHAD SCARY, converted garage on more than one occasion -

But my better sense comes to the fore - and I use the phone instead.

MoveOn wants door-to-door work this weekend. *looks at post* Somehow, they're just going to have to live with email. The balance of my team is out of state right now, or sick. And I'm BOOKED.

Comments

[condotierre.livejournal.com]

*reads the LJ-link*

Glad the issue is being addressed - because 'why doesn't she just leave' never takes into account things like, 'This man is breaking -into- my house by picking the locks every night unless I latch it, and then he almost breaks the door down demanding to come in.' Why didn't I call a restraining order on him? As an international student at the time, I didn't know if I -could-, and there was no real proof of physical violence. There wasn't any yet. Just the sarcasm and cutting remarks and chiselling away at self-confidence daily. Nothing tangible to show.

Why didn't I just leave the door latched and ignore him? After a while, the numbness sets in, aside of at the time just -not- knowing any better, and not being able to tell anyone, not even my close friends, about it. Who'd believe me anyway? And anyway. On maybe $300 a month outside of scholarship, that wasn't even enough to put a down payment on any other place after bills were done, and in VA they always ask up front for income statements first before they even consider you.

Why didn't I leave?

There just wasn't anywhere else to go. My own -house- had become a prison. And there were some extra-complicating factors like family, because I couldn't discuss the issue with them for reasons I won't go into.

Yeah. Maybe if I'd known then that it wasn't me who was the guilty party after being told it was my fault for months and months, maybe if I was stronger like I am now, I'd have had the courage to up and say, Get out of my life.

Seven, eight years down the road now, I'm glad I'm alive and stronger for the hell that man put me through, but not that many people are so lucky unfortunately.

[fallofrain.livejournal.com]

It was the mercy of some kind net friends that got me out of my abusive situation. It's been nearly 2 years and wow do I feel great!

[kimberlychapman.livejournal.com]

Meh, I'm so sick of people asking why women don't leave. How many times do we have to spell it out? Economic dependency. Fear. Misguided feelings of "love", unworthiness to be alone, belief in the abuser's insults, etc. Children. Nowhere to go. Shame. Etc.

This stuff is commonly discussed all the time. I really don't see any excuse for anyone interested enough to ask the question to not know the answers. :/

Ignorance is annoying.