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My thoughts are:

I doubt this touchy-feely research. my brother is adopted Korean and he never had any interest in Korean culture. He is completely self-confident and well-adjusted. He also has no problem with having white/multicultural friends. I think what he learned from his upbringing is that color doesn't actually matter. Doing things that give the impression of "OMG you are a different color so we need to do SPECIAL THINGS for you" is IMO more harmful than just allowing the kid to be raised like anyone else.

I also am really leery of the idea of having specifically minority childcare. Minorities (especially minority women) have traditionally been used for such low-status and low-pay occupations as child care provider, housekeeping, janitorial services, etc. Making sure that your child is raised with confirmation of such a stereotype seems harmful to me.

I think you'll do better if you just focus on giving your child love and affirmation, instead of treating them like they're strange and need special care because of their ethnicity.

She always has a place where she "fits in" - she'll have those memories to draw on later.

Why is it that you seem to feel that she can't "fit in" with you, just because your skin is a different color from hers? She's no different from you, you know. She's only a different color.