*yawn*

[kyburg]

Today was the meeting with Heartsent about the changes in the China program; best part of it was meeting the founder of the agency, who'd I spoken to in depth at the beginning of the process (that whole DCFS thang, doncha know -) but I'd never seen.

She says they're looking at starting a program in Nepal. Maybe one in Columbia - but it's very iffy at this stage, etc.

Cliff had an adopted cousin from Tibet - I got to meet him on our honeymoon, he and his younger sister from Korea. They were a good five to ten years older than us - but if I got the chance to adopt someone like him...let's just say I perked up rather well in class.

Got out to dim sum with caitlin and catsonmars - then fell asleep in the car on the way home. Yes, fall down go BOOM.

I'm going to go back now and get some sleep. Yay weekends!

Comments

[caitlin.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I haven't left the house since coming home after goign to the post office after we parted company.

I crashed out myself shortly afterwards too.

Am awake now, but I don't think that's going to be for that much longer.

C.

[riverheart.livejournal.com]

Columbia? OK. Nepal, OK. Tibet, OK. Anyplace that will let the two of us adopt, OK. I intend to be around long enough to see the kid graduate from college, and preferably on the same transplanted kidney, too.

[moropus.livejournal.com]

You've been trying to adopt a child so long. I really hope this works out for you.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

For you, for the time and money you'd have to put into it - I'd consider contracting the services of a gestational surrogate. Seriously. I was finally given a statistic I'd been wondering about over the weekend - average length of time to perform one adotion - care to guess the average?

Seven years. My three years are actually shorter than the average....

And frankly, the changes to the China program bring it into line with most of the other ones - according to the agency folks. It had been one of the most liberal - I don't know how flexible they would be for the Vietnam or Guatemala programs (you might ask them about it), but for the time and energy spent...and surely, there have been volunteers, yes?...a gestational surrogate would get the job done without a whole bunch of people frowning at the multiple medical issues happening right now.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

You might check the other comments in this thread - it turns out I haven't put enough time in yet, to be of any concern. Average is seven years....

[riverheart.livejournal.com]

Actually, nobody's volunteered as a surrogate yet. And we have a couple of factors that make it just a bit more difficult than it might be for, say, you. One is that Charles had a vasectomy over ten years ago. We had been working with a donor, who is a good friend of ours. The other is the age of my eggs, and the medical factors that I now know about and don't want to pass on. We'd probably need to purchase donor eggs as well as donor sperm for something like this.

It's a thought, though, and if you have any ideas, please send 'em on.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

If you have a donor for half the equation, then I'd investigate the surrogate for the other half. This is, of course, on the cutting edge of what a LOT of people consider shaky ethic ground, but if all the parties involved are in it for the kid involved, I can't imagine much going far wrong.

Shoot, wasn't it the snowflake foundation or some odd that placed zygotes leftover from fertility treatments? I could Google it - if you could find the gestational surrogate, there you go.

Mom's fond of saying we all come into the world the same way - if you don't mind how your kid(s) come into the world, does it matter?