How's it going?

[kyburg]

With the adoption business?

Suffice it to say, I came to the conclusion yesterday I'd have better luck with assisted reproduction - even with my sucky chances of getting pregnant, they're now higher than actually getting a placement within the next five years.

Stay tuned.

Comments

[eve-dallas.livejournal.com]

Twenty eight years ago, I might have been tempted to offer you my fifth-born. He turned out great, but he started life by getting tossed out of the newborn nursery for being a disruptive influence on the other newborns!

[djdig.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry Donna!

[luscious-purple.livejournal.com]

Oh, no. What happened this time? Or were you "just thinking"?

*hugs*

[exedore.livejournal.com]

There's something seriously wrong with the world when an intelligent, grounded couple like you and Jim can't offer a child a better life after following every step and jumping every hurdle placed in front of you but the most incompetent people alive can reproduce without red tape.

[violet-tigress1.livejournal.com]

Oh I'm so sorry. :( Did something else happen? You'd think that with all the CPS & foster care horror stories you hear, that someone would take the initiative to make it easier to adopt.

[lefresne.livejournal.com]

That is not right. I'm sorry D. You two should be parents, sooner even than now.

Funnily enough

[(Anonymous)]

I was thinking of your plight today, and I said to myself that if I ever got into a similar situation, I'd honestly hope to have enough money to go the in-vitro fertilization+surrogate mother route. It sort of happened out of the blue, too.

Re: Funnily enough

[turandot.livejournal.com]

dur... that was me. Having trouble with keeping my lj signed in, for some reason. =/

[rarity.livejournal.com]

You're trying to adopt a child?

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Open my journal natively and look for tags that say 'adoption' - we've been at this since 2003.

[rarity.livejournal.com]

I'm new. I didn't know. Wow. Sorry.

[murphymom.livejournal.com]

I will hold all good thoughts for you that *something* will succeed. My friend has 5-year-old twins conceived through in vitro, born to her when she was 45. Her niece donated the eggs, and her husband's sperm was used.

[dracowayfarer.livejournal.com]

Yarg. *hug*

[simgaroop.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to read that. I just don't understand why, with so many kids needing a family out there, the adoption process is so damn complicated. It's not fair at all.

Best wishes for both of you.

[drlaurac.livejournal.com]

I was actually contemplating in vitro the other night. But for me, that would be insanely dangerous. If you could get donated eggs, that might increase your chances. That's what I would do if I could do it safely. Someday your princess will come, it's just hard to tell WHEN right now.

[poetpaladin.livejournal.com]

*hugs you gently*

Here's wishing you beautiful babies.

[ahavia.livejournal.com]

Would you consider domestic adoption?
Ahavia

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

I'd consider anything - but if you go back and look at the posts tagged 'adoption' - you'll out quickly why I can't right now.

[ahavia.livejournal.com]

>>I'd consider anything - but if you go back and look at the posts tagged 'adoption' - you'll out quickly why I can't right now.

I did read all your posts tagged 'adoption' and I might have missed something, but I don't see why your not going for a domestic adoption.
You have Chinese and Vietnames coworkers. How many Asian friends do you have, like visit your home, come to each others not work parties?
My partner is African American, one of my birth sons is African American and Native American as is my adopted daughter. I am the White minority in our home. My partner had been married to an Indian (India) man and they lived in India for many years. She speaks Hindi in the home so her birth son knows the language. He is now grown. We considered adopting a child from India as her sister-in-law runs an orphanage and our lawyer also is involved with an orphanage in India. But we got a child from her home town, Camden. Almost by accident. The bio mother was court ordered to get help from a parenting program run by the YWCA in Camden that my partner was director of. So when this bio mom had her 9th child at 21 and this baby was going to be removed to foster care, the bio mom asked us if we would take her, so it was a para-foster situation and after 21 yr. I adopted. As I told you in a former post.
I used to work for Luthern Childrens Family Service and they have foster to adopt programs.
More and more countries are closing their foreign adoptions as you know.
And even though we are an inter-racial family, I have a real hard time with inter-racial adoptions. I had to change my whole life to be in a supportive world for my children. In the best of situations, it is still hard. I was born and raised Orthodox Jewish. Because I was a mother of children of Color, I became a Quaker (Religous Society of Friends) because of its history of civil rights and there were so many interacial families in the Phila. Meeting I joined. One of my daughter's half sisters was in a foster family in that meeting and then the girls could see each other.
I was afraid you were not going to talk to me because I came out in my post. I used to belong to a mailing list for adopted parents of children with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. For years. It was a wonderful support to me. I made some great friends on that list. I would talk about Shante, my daughter, and my friend, Joyce who is a child psychologist and an expert in developmentally delayed children, and was accepted. And then in response to a very homophobic remark some man said, I came out and was thrown off the list. And all who spoke in support of me were thrown off. It was very hurtful. So I am touchy about that.
I do hope you can be the loving parent that you so wish to be.
Ahavia

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

We can't pursue more than one placement at a time.

Since we are already logged in with the China program, we can't even think about pursuing another program, international or domestic. Period.

About the only thing I can do right now is get pregnant myself. Seriously.

The rest is blah blah blah Ginger.