Some notes for the BIL - and others.

[kyburg]

Sis crap. I've kept this thing long enough, I may need to refer back to it.

Here's a classic.

This one, for older brother.

Mom's asked me, for her birthday, to reach out to him and try to mend the ways.

Well. You don't ask, you don't get.

Comments

[caitlin.livejournal.com]

What's that old saying about leading a horse to water...?

I'd say give it a try... but if at first you don't succeed... considering it sounds like you have been trying... leave it be. If there is a fence that neither of them want mended, it is not up to you.

There are at least 2 expressions in Chinese...

One of them amounts to "you made the effort, that's what counts". The other I think is equivalent to the whole fence mending thing. (I know what they mean in my head and in Chinese... it's trying to translate them that gives me coniptions.) Near as I can figure, it's essentially "if they don't want it, it's easier to pull down"

I have been burned too many times by people who don't care to throw much effort into it anymore.