There are days -
Jul. 11th, 2005 05:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburgWhen it seems like everyone is running away from you?
You can run to catch up.
You can scream and see if they care.
You can leave a message when they get there to call you.
You can also run, and pass them on the way. Or run the other direction.
But never, ever take it personally.
And never let it make the decision on what you're going to do in the meantime.
Life is truly a series of meetings and partings. That is the way of it.
And being happy is as much keeping your eye on what matters to you - and what you gain, not lose.
And being ready for the Next Thing. There will be a Next Thing. And it might be Good, if you're alert and waiting for it.
..
It also helps to grow a great deal of tolerance for being alone; being generous with self-praise for every thing you manage to do for yourself, without help from anyone - and anyone even noticing. You can do it - nobody else needs to know or care. You will. And if you can?
Where life comes up short - it won't matter as much. Make the best of it - or the worst, it's your choice.
Being unhappy does not help you get lucky. Sympathy is not an indication that people care more about what ails you - matter of fact, if often acts more like an exercise in social grace than a valid emotion. Take the hint, and start taking charge.
And comparing your problems to the ones "other" people don't have? They have them. Trust me on this. Maybe not the same ones - but they have shit that would scare any rational person too.
That said?
It sucks little green rat rocks through a coffee stirrer. Backwards. To have to do it all yourself.
But where the rubber meets the road, that's where we all live. Help is always negotiated; never a given.
...and that's just the way of things.
Don't take it personally.
You can run to catch up.
You can scream and see if they care.
You can leave a message when they get there to call you.
You can also run, and pass them on the way. Or run the other direction.
But never, ever take it personally.
And never let it make the decision on what you're going to do in the meantime.
Life is truly a series of meetings and partings. That is the way of it.
And being happy is as much keeping your eye on what matters to you - and what you gain, not lose.
And being ready for the Next Thing. There will be a Next Thing. And it might be Good, if you're alert and waiting for it.
..
It also helps to grow a great deal of tolerance for being alone; being generous with self-praise for every thing you manage to do for yourself, without help from anyone - and anyone even noticing. You can do it - nobody else needs to know or care. You will. And if you can?
Where life comes up short - it won't matter as much. Make the best of it - or the worst, it's your choice.
Being unhappy does not help you get lucky. Sympathy is not an indication that people care more about what ails you - matter of fact, if often acts more like an exercise in social grace than a valid emotion. Take the hint, and start taking charge.
And comparing your problems to the ones "other" people don't have? They have them. Trust me on this. Maybe not the same ones - but they have shit that would scare any rational person too.
That said?
It sucks little green rat rocks through a coffee stirrer. Backwards. To have to do it all yourself.
But where the rubber meets the road, that's where we all live. Help is always negotiated; never a given.
...and that's just the way of things.
Don't take it personally.
