You live and learn - part two
Jun. 6th, 2006 12:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburgSpoke to DCFS; I actually found out who the supervisor was and spoke to her directly.
And it's confirmed - Heartsent may not care if we are working with another agency like DCFS; DCFS cares a whole lot and will close our case.
Two years, a year of therapy (and the expenses associated with it) - bye bye. *waves*
Well, no education gained is wasted, all that jazz....
And once we're through with Heartsent, if we manage to enlarge the house, have room and finances for a third child - we'll come back. We're clear on the needs, after all.
But there you have it. You go where the need is, DCFS won't follow you. You're honest and upfront about what your plans are, you don't get rewarded for it - you get dropped like a hot rock. If it isn't something they're comfortable with.
Anyone having to deal with this system not by choice, has my complete sympathies. You got victimized, the system we all pay money into to help you, victimizes you again just walking in the door. It's all about the liability - not about the needs. Please don't look at me like that - I'm not angry. I'm just getting my mental arms around it, taking it in and figuring out how to cope with it. Because it's abundantly clear it's staying just like it is; I have to figure out for myself how to work within it, not demand change.
Getting angry and blaming will solve nothing. It is what it is.
And so, we move on.
It's that road to hell thang again. You know, paved with what again? Right. Good intentions. Everyone in this process has stock in the company that makes that stuff to pave the roads with. Me, them, the kids involved, everyone.
Without trust, it's bupkis. Remember that. Without trust...there's nothing.
And it's confirmed - Heartsent may not care if we are working with another agency like DCFS; DCFS cares a whole lot and will close our case.
Two years, a year of therapy (and the expenses associated with it) - bye bye. *waves*
Well, no education gained is wasted, all that jazz....
And once we're through with Heartsent, if we manage to enlarge the house, have room and finances for a third child - we'll come back. We're clear on the needs, after all.
But there you have it. You go where the need is, DCFS won't follow you. You're honest and upfront about what your plans are, you don't get rewarded for it - you get dropped like a hot rock. If it isn't something they're comfortable with.
Anyone having to deal with this system not by choice, has my complete sympathies. You got victimized, the system we all pay money into to help you, victimizes you again just walking in the door. It's all about the liability - not about the needs. Please don't look at me like that - I'm not angry. I'm just getting my mental arms around it, taking it in and figuring out how to cope with it. Because it's abundantly clear it's staying just like it is; I have to figure out for myself how to work within it, not demand change.
Getting angry and blaming will solve nothing. It is what it is.
And so, we move on.
It's that road to hell thang again. You know, paved with what again? Right. Good intentions. Everyone in this process has stock in the company that makes that stuff to pave the roads with. Me, them, the kids involved, everyone.
Without trust, it's bupkis. Remember that. Without trust...there's nothing.
