The update?
Aug. 31st, 2007 12:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburgWell, I can't age out of the China program - our dossier made it in before the rules changed.
So - I guess they can keep me waiting as long as they want, but I can't age out. Yes, I talked to the founder - something tells me we may yet end up pretty good friends. The subject matter and urgency certainly doesn't hurt the level of contact required.
She says that they have been assured by the representatives they have to trust, and have been trustworthy in the past, that the wait will be no longer than three years and if things don't break loose right after the Olympics, then some very hard decisions will be made. I have to accept that for the moment - that's all we have.
More and more, though - I'm being pushed toward the Vietnam program for the second one. And more and more, that's feeling Right. Don't ask me why. I have Chinese coworkers. I have Vietnamese coworkers. I'd be fine with it.
I don't want just one. As much as I want a kid, I feel that's unfair to her in every way I can imagine. Just to have us - and nobody else.
Yes, she'll have friends. Family of her own chosing, someday. You have those hopes for your kids - things you had, at least.
But one of the things I'll insist on - that my own family of origin insisted on - is Home is always where a sibling is. At 3:00 in the morning, when nobody else cares - I can call a sib, and the phone will be answered. It may not always be preferable, it is NEVER forever - but someone will pick up the phone.
That's why there's such a push. I have to get through the first one to get to the second...and looking at it that way, time is getting short.
Which reminds me. I need to call my Mom.
So - I guess they can keep me waiting as long as they want, but I can't age out. Yes, I talked to the founder - something tells me we may yet end up pretty good friends. The subject matter and urgency certainly doesn't hurt the level of contact required.
She says that they have been assured by the representatives they have to trust, and have been trustworthy in the past, that the wait will be no longer than three years and if things don't break loose right after the Olympics, then some very hard decisions will be made. I have to accept that for the moment - that's all we have.
More and more, though - I'm being pushed toward the Vietnam program for the second one. And more and more, that's feeling Right. Don't ask me why. I have Chinese coworkers. I have Vietnamese coworkers. I'd be fine with it.
I don't want just one. As much as I want a kid, I feel that's unfair to her in every way I can imagine. Just to have us - and nobody else.
Yes, she'll have friends. Family of her own chosing, someday. You have those hopes for your kids - things you had, at least.
But one of the things I'll insist on - that my own family of origin insisted on - is Home is always where a sibling is. At 3:00 in the morning, when nobody else cares - I can call a sib, and the phone will be answered. It may not always be preferable, it is NEVER forever - but someone will pick up the phone.
That's why there's such a push. I have to get through the first one to get to the second...and looking at it that way, time is getting short.
Which reminds me. I need to call my Mom.
