That...was unexpected.
Feb. 8th, 2004 04:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburg*cocks head* Okay, I'm bemused.
I forget how many journals I read. No, I do - because for every 3 people I have on my friends list, maybe one adds me to theirs.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
shadesong is the nexus, folks. I'm not. She has filters and lists. I don't. She also writes to her audiences (and is a whole helluva lot more entertaining, day to day). I don't. If I have an audience, I couldn't tell you why.
In short, I'm boring as hell but entirely too friendly for my own good. The interests list will only allow me 150 entries. I could double it, easily - but if you were added recently and you can't fathom why, don't look there for an answer.
I don't friend at random. I don't have the smarts to write the bot, and frankly find the idea distasteful, let alone a waste of resources. And...why? To be annoying? Please. I don't read over 500 journals because I find people annoying.
I find people fascinating. I write; I role play. I was educated as a dual drama/journalism major. People and their lives are meat and milk to one like that - and while that alone sounds parasitic, hang on for a moment - because I do my best to reciprocate. I hide little, I filter rarely - and never less than the people I have added as my friends. I don't hate people, y'see. I tend to trust easily, listen well and try to be a good friend in return.
People on my friends list are going to school, getting married, having babies, getting divorced, breaking up, making up, going back to school, going to work, looking for work, putting their lives back together, searching for the meaning in it all and making their way through this life as best they can. I have circles built around various sets of interests, communities and RL friends but only I can see them. Various RL events are shared across a large number of people on my list. As I firmly believe that we are meant to have people from all age groups in our lives at all points in our lives, I don't keep people on my list just from my own age group. I also believe that just listening to people who agree with you isn't good for your intelligence or assumptions. Legitimate challenges to your beliefs is healthy - how else can you check your work?
How do I keep up? I have DSL or better here at home and I can check the list at work while eating lunch. I read VERY fast. I've blown the lid off every comprehension test I've ever been given and I really don't know how fast I can read - I have one friend who read as fast as I, maybe a bit better - and we can blow through the Ring Trilogy in a day if we're left alone. We did, once.
Of course, we weren't fit to speak American English for the rest of the day, but you get the gist.
I didn't add you to annoy you. I saw something I liked - that's why I added you.
I will also try to talk you out of asking me to defriend you - just because. I don't friend because of any other reason other than I saw something good in your journal.
I grew up in a small, insular town where I knew everyone. I grew up and left it for the big city and never looked back. I don't use my journal for any other purpose but for me and what is important to me. I don't expect anyone to write their journal for any other purpose.
Welcome - hope you'll want to stick around.
I forget how many journals I read. No, I do - because for every 3 people I have on my friends list, maybe one adds me to theirs.
shadesong is the nexus, folks. I'm not. She has filters and lists. I don't. She also writes to her audiences (and is a whole helluva lot more entertaining, day to day). I don't. If I have an audience, I couldn't tell you why.In short, I'm boring as hell but entirely too friendly for my own good. The interests list will only allow me 150 entries. I could double it, easily - but if you were added recently and you can't fathom why, don't look there for an answer.
I don't friend at random. I don't have the smarts to write the bot, and frankly find the idea distasteful, let alone a waste of resources. And...why? To be annoying? Please. I don't read over 500 journals because I find people annoying.
I find people fascinating. I write; I role play. I was educated as a dual drama/journalism major. People and their lives are meat and milk to one like that - and while that alone sounds parasitic, hang on for a moment - because I do my best to reciprocate. I hide little, I filter rarely - and never less than the people I have added as my friends. I don't hate people, y'see. I tend to trust easily, listen well and try to be a good friend in return.
People on my friends list are going to school, getting married, having babies, getting divorced, breaking up, making up, going back to school, going to work, looking for work, putting their lives back together, searching for the meaning in it all and making their way through this life as best they can. I have circles built around various sets of interests, communities and RL friends but only I can see them. Various RL events are shared across a large number of people on my list. As I firmly believe that we are meant to have people from all age groups in our lives at all points in our lives, I don't keep people on my list just from my own age group. I also believe that just listening to people who agree with you isn't good for your intelligence or assumptions. Legitimate challenges to your beliefs is healthy - how else can you check your work?
How do I keep up? I have DSL or better here at home and I can check the list at work while eating lunch. I read VERY fast. I've blown the lid off every comprehension test I've ever been given and I really don't know how fast I can read - I have one friend who read as fast as I, maybe a bit better - and we can blow through the Ring Trilogy in a day if we're left alone. We did, once.
Of course, we weren't fit to speak American English for the rest of the day, but you get the gist.
I didn't add you to annoy you. I saw something I liked - that's why I added you.
I will also try to talk you out of asking me to defriend you - just because. I don't friend because of any other reason other than I saw something good in your journal.
I grew up in a small, insular town where I knew everyone. I grew up and left it for the big city and never looked back. I don't use my journal for any other purpose but for me and what is important to me. I don't expect anyone to write their journal for any other purpose.
Welcome - hope you'll want to stick around.
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:09 pm (UTC)I'm delighted to be (cyber)part of your life. I'm glad you're part of mine. You're generous and smart and funny and warm. That works for me.
Be well.
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:13 pm (UTC)*laughs*
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:19 pm (UTC)i often wonder though.. whats you icon all about?
and hell yeah, i could easilydouble the intrest list.. maybe i can have more now i have a paid account..? i'll give it ago. you can put more interests in your profile if you liek :) x
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:42 pm (UTC)It's "the glare" - and for either good or ill, it looks a lot like me.
But here, let me put up one of me at 2 years old. Since I was just talking about 2 year olds....
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:45 pm (UTC)i was just stealing your idea of having a jippy bday banner :) finally got it sorted mwwahaha
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:20 pm (UTC)To be honest, I was DELIGHTED to find out that you were friends with
I have been friended by people before whom I did NOT know--who have done the "friend swamping" thing, and some of them were quite unpleasant. But it's good to know you're not one of them, and I'm happy to know you.
We have a bit in common, and I look forward to getting to know you.
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:41 pm (UTC)Isn't she a doll? Yes, definitely one of the good ones, as my husband calls them. Welcome aboard!
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:30 pm (UTC)I would still like to meet you one of these... years? ;)
C.
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Date: 2004-02-08 05:38 pm (UTC)You, Dearling...
Date: 2004-02-08 05:54 pm (UTC)And here they call me the extrovert, geeze... *winks*
-Silver
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Date: 2004-02-08 08:15 pm (UTC)(Hope you feel better soon. Hot tea. Hot tea makes everything better.)
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Date: 2004-02-08 06:30 pm (UTC)Well, no wonder I enjoy reading your journal, then!
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Date: 2004-02-08 08:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-08 07:13 pm (UTC)*dodges tumbleweeds*
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Date: 2004-02-08 07:14 pm (UTC)*dodges tumbleweeds*
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Date: 2004-02-08 07:14 pm (UTC)*dodges tumbleweeds*
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Date: 2004-02-08 07:15 pm (UTC)*dodges tumbleweeds*
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Date: 2004-02-08 08:17 pm (UTC)You're only in Arizona - that's hardly the end of the world. Come out here this summer to get out of the heat!
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Date: 2004-02-08 09:21 pm (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-08 09:51 pm (UTC)*shakes head*
Well, Donna, I'd say you're a hit!
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Date: 2004-02-08 10:41 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-08 11:45 pm (UTC)Hi.
Date: 2004-02-08 09:24 pm (UTC)Anyway, just thought I'd take this opportunity to say... hi!
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Date: 2004-02-08 11:47 pm (UTC)You know, the only way to improve is practice -
(Wow, flattery - I'm interesting *and* have cute icons....)
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Date: 2004-02-08 09:53 pm (UTC)I understand what you're saying in terms of the lives we read on our friends' list as being a microcasm of life around us. I like the kind of intimacy that it offers. And like you, most of my friends are from various communities I gravitate to, but also are people I just found intersting and enjoy reading...
L'Chaim (To life), kyburg!
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Date: 2004-02-08 11:48 pm (UTC)Ah, to be the rational adult. Nuts.
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Date: 2004-02-09 08:07 am (UTC)Yes...but there ARE three day weekends... =0)
Don't pout. We'll see the baby panda together... =)
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Date: 2004-02-08 10:01 pm (UTC)For some odd reason, a fair amount of totally random people seem to come across my journal and find it interesting enough to add. I've never quite understood why, as I know I'm capable of far better and more thoughtful writing than ever goes into my LJ, and I always feel like my style is somewhat lacking here. Ah well. I'm not displeased at all that random people find me interesting. :)
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Date: 2004-02-08 11:52 pm (UTC)I was once taught to write, even if I didn't feel inspired - just so I would be able to go back later and see that it was actually pretty good in spite of it. Inspiration makes the fingers move more quickly - but being able to work without it is a true skill. Don't sell yourself so short!
Grins...
Date: 2004-02-08 11:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-08 11:53 pm (UTC)Grins..
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Date: 2004-02-09 07:11 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-02-09 08:26 am (UTC)I'm here for the duration, for smart people who post interesting things about themselves are rare.
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Date: 2004-02-09 12:32 pm (UTC)Or perhaps I'm a better storyteller than I thought - :/
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Date: 2004-02-09 08:32 am (UTC)that's almost frightening. wow.
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Date: 2004-02-09 12:55 pm (UTC)But I do absolutely love your icons... And I agree... sometimes even without inspiration you just need to write. I know if I hadn't written my crappy poem a few days ago, I wouldn't have been able to write the fairly decent one later....
Anyways, Peace :)
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Date: 2004-02-09 05:44 pm (UTC)Re:
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