Here's one for the thought factory -

[kyburg]

Something crossed my mind the other day with regard to how incredibly monogamous I am. I can only give my affections completely to one person at a time - I am completely blind to the rest of the species when I have my One. I can concentrate and think about being loved by another, but it takes work. Lots of conscious effort.

I come from a single parent family. The very idea that one can have more than one source of the unconditional love I've received from my mother - that the father can also provide security and comfort as well, is so totally alien it took me aback for a moment.

So much for single parent families teaching promiscuity.

Comments?

Comments

[zephirknight.livejournal.com]

Probably a dangerous outlook on life. Depending on that One is likely to push them away. Not immediately. Not in the short term, but in the long run.... probably. A diverse life is a wealthy life. Not that I am at all suggesting that Monogamy is bad. It is the ultimate in trust, commitment and respect and something that I hold dear.

Hobbies, friends... really good friends, and other interests are a good thing though.

[onlylisa.livejournal.com]

I think if that is what works for you then that is great. That sort of devotion to other people is perhaps why some people are never happy.

[monkeyfruit.livejournal.com]

Probably not really anything to do with being raised by a single parent =) I'm pretty monogamous as well, but people point out that it is simply because I am oblivious =P

Seconds that

[turandot.livejournal.com]

I was raised by a two parent family. I also was pretty much oblivious to the point of not knowing guys liked me, even as I spent entire days with them. I'd always find out from a third party "oh, so and so had the biggest crush on you, but they finally gave up because you never gave them a hint one way or the other". =P

Sometimes I still turn to my husband and go "tell me again what exactly you saw in me", since I had no idea he had a crush on me until he asked me if it was okay to kiss me. My brain was like "Uh, wow, he really likes me; I had no idea this was mutual." =)

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[monkeyfruit.livejournal.com]

*facefaults* Exactly the case with me! And how we share that bit about having to ask to kiss you is uncanny!

Oblivious is good. Somethings you shouldn't spend so much time worrying about =)

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[monkeyfruit.livejournal.com]

Oops, I just re-read my comment, and it looks weird. I meant, about boys having to ask for permission to proffer a kiss. =P

[joggingguy.livejournal.com]

Something crossed my mind the other day with regard to how incredibly monogamous I am. I can only give my affections completely to one person at a time - I am completely blind to the rest of the species when I have my One. I can concentrate and think about being loved by another, but it takes work. Lots of conscious effort.

Me too. I'm happy with my One too :-)

[lord-keeper.livejournal.com]

I can and am happy with one but often find myself fighting to limit my affections to one person and one person only. I am a very big believer in polyamourey. However my wife, while agreeing in theory, does not FEEL the same way. I do not look for another or more aproprietly put let my feelings for another grow beyond friendship (a very difficult thing for me at times) because I know this wouls cause my beloved hurt feelings. I do envy those that find like mind indivuals as partners....multiple partners.

I do not believe that man (as a species) was ever meant to be totally monogamous *SP?*.

[adriannightpaw.livejournal.com]

May as well be a single parent family, considering the amount of attention my Dad and Stepdad paid to me. I am also rather monogamous, and the not knowing someone liked me thing hits home as well, though on the other side of the fence, as i'm a guy. Anyway, i find it's not that i'm oblivious to others, i can love others, just not the way i love my One. There is only One i feel close enough to for intimacy, and that is my One. The love for the others is different, though no less as strong.