Not done yet -
May. 17th, 2007 04:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kyburgBut had to get this in before my day is totally gone.
What happens when you use a safe-haven baby drop-off...for a toddler?
Psst. Lemme tellya something. The research shows, beyond a doubt, that it doesn't change the outcome of 'trauma' much depending on the age you turn a child over to someone else (in this case, I'd hope for adoption placement). You do it - your kid will have it to ponder. Deal with? The degree is variable.
But adopted kids will always know - somehow - they aren't your biological children - no matter the age. You discuss adoption as soon as the child is old enough to get their head around it. We've been taught that if you haven't thought about talking about adoption with your child, you probably need to do it again. You do it so often, it no longer has any power to wound, surprise or hold any other kind of emotional power.
You will always have a bonding period to establish - and work to establish - if you adopt.
That said - I have to say this drop-off served its purpose if they wanted to discourage abandonment in an unsafe public place like a park or shopping mall. I also hope they get to the bottom of the why - but in Japan, adoption is not supported well. I can understand why someone might chose this path. Any other path might not have served the need. The kid's safe - today. And having your needs met, at that age, has a lot more to do with early development than anything else.
Wow.
What happens when you use a safe-haven baby drop-off...for a toddler?
Psst. Lemme tellya something. The research shows, beyond a doubt, that it doesn't change the outcome of 'trauma' much depending on the age you turn a child over to someone else (in this case, I'd hope for adoption placement). You do it - your kid will have it to ponder. Deal with? The degree is variable.
But adopted kids will always know - somehow - they aren't your biological children - no matter the age. You discuss adoption as soon as the child is old enough to get their head around it. We've been taught that if you haven't thought about talking about adoption with your child, you probably need to do it again. You do it so often, it no longer has any power to wound, surprise or hold any other kind of emotional power.
You will always have a bonding period to establish - and work to establish - if you adopt.
That said - I have to say this drop-off served its purpose if they wanted to discourage abandonment in an unsafe public place like a park or shopping mall. I also hope they get to the bottom of the why - but in Japan, adoption is not supported well. I can understand why someone might chose this path. Any other path might not have served the need. The kid's safe - today. And having your needs met, at that age, has a lot more to do with early development than anything else.
Wow.
