Surf's up!

[kyburg]

Proof positive that anyone with an axe to grind, will grind it to the exclusion of rational thought:

Fight CPS!

Some quotes - besides "they took our kids for no reason!" - which is ubiquitous:

Ohio: Caseworker accused of prejudice against Muslims
Massachusetts: Father on trial for murder of CPS caseworker
Georgia: If the state can't take care of kids right why not leave them with their parents?

*blows air*

Prayer requests? How about the top of the list?

Ilost my two sons five years ago July241999 my life and my childrens has neaver been the same again after marry a man and finding out four months later when children and youth came to our home and they said they had to take my boys that they were in danger by this man i had to leave him i did everything i was to do with children and youth they went to court and lyed to the judge and i was not able to talk in these hearings at all after playing with our hearts all this time and back in october termenating my parental rights telling my oldest son that is 12 years old he would neaver live with me again in a foster home where he was being abuse i have letters wrote by himbagging me to get him out of this home Derek tried to hang himself inthis same foster home i even have pictures of marks on his little face from abuse from the foster parents and cys blamed this on me and i was not around him and then two months later i got another phone call that Derek was back in the hospital he tried to kill him self again by cutting his wrist in the mean time they had him so druged up on all kinds of medacation that it is a wonder that in it self didnot do him in my youngest is somewhere in fayette co PA they will not tell me where all i know is with a single man and this mans mother comes in the morning and gets Anthony off to school and the man is there to get him from the schoolbus in the afternoon i have terrible feelinds about this i have hired a private investigator and he has checked me out all around i have neaver hurt my children in any way i am a nurse and take care of complete strange people and neaver as much as had traffic ticket i cant understand our system i am in appeals right now and i am not giving up on Derek and Anthony they our the soul of me if you would remember us in your preys that some way someone could help us parents that done noughing wrong but we as families have been done wrong GODPLEASE BRING OUR BABIES HOME TO US AGAIN

Okay.

Well, they told us to get ready to deal with this - in two different sets of classes.

Imagine me being asked to adopt that oldest at 15.

Boy, I know kids get taken by mistake. But those kids go home, as fast as the system can turn it around - but it does take time. Lessee - my whole process has been most of this year, hasn't it?

Not as simple as good vs. bad. That, I'm certain of.

Gods. You go to a site for folks looking for support after their kids have been taken by CPS, and the majority of posts is about foster homes where kids have been killed, molested and worse - thanks a bunch. Those poor folks.

Just keep grinding that axe.

Comments

[evilshell.livejournal.com]

Your journey makes me think about friends of my mom's, from when I was growing up.

This couple couldn't have children, and decided to adopt. But rather than select a baby, they wanted to give a child who had a hard time in life a chance for happiness and security. They ended up adopting a young girl, I believe she was about 8. The girl had a younger sister, but for reasons never explained to me, they only took the older girl.

These girls were up for adoption because they saw their father murder their mother. And then the father left the house and the girls were left to fend on their own for days. The girl this family adopted was around 5 when this happened, and took care of and protected her younger sister.

The girl who was adopted had severe emotional issues. We were friends, to a degree (she was several years younger than I am), and I could tell she wasn't "normal" - but I never understood why she acted so much more immature than her age until I was older and my mom explained to me what happened.

Kelly (that's the girl's name) became very bitter as a teenager and made her adoptive parents' life a living hell. I often wondered if they regretted their decision to adopt her and to give her the loving home she deserved. Therapy apparently didn't help her much at all.

The story is so tragic. Nobody was happy, not in the end. I wonder, often, if things would have been different if the family had adopted both kids. I also wonder how they are today.

Whew. That was a dump, and I'm sorry if it made you uncomfortable to read. But your courage in the face of what you want to do makes me think of Kelly and her family - and makes me admire you all the more.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

I've got more resources. I know I do.

And there are therapists who do the work needed, and those that get a paycheck. I know the difference between the two, as well.

And teenagers can make anyone's life a living hell - for a while.

*chuckles* I know I can out stubborn anything living. I've done it.

[ecstaticlght.livejournal.com]

Out of curiosity which of the States was the most prevalent in those stories?

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Shame on you - go look for yourself!

News stories - just about everywhere.

Personal stories? Florida and Texas. As I could see....

[ecstaticlght.livejournal.com]

It was the personal stories I was curious about. I thought maybe you'd gone to the support list yourself and seen what was going on.

I'm not surprised about the Florida and Texas locals. There is a push for some big social/child welfare reforms going on in both states.

PS links aren't working so well on my dial-up tonight :P

[religioushoax.livejournal.com]

i personally hate ohio cps. friends our our had their children taken from them after false allegations of abuse. the social worker who came later to meet with them refused to return their children to them, stating their house was "dirty". maybe their house was dirty - in the sense of a dirty dish or two, or it needed to be dusted. NOT dirty with bugs and trash everywhere. while the three children were in foster care, they were convinced to tell social workers that daddy molested them, even though an examination was done when they were removed from the home, and no evidence was found. what's more, and what absolutely kills me, is that while in foster care, the 3 year old girl was sexually abused by another foster child - a 7 year old boy. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

*nods* Four times the national average - and that's with all the hoops we're jumping through.

Found out the other day that once placement is done with us, we'll have to meet CE requirements as well - that's about 12 hours of classwork per year to keep out foster parent home license.

Something tells me situations like the one you know of have prompted some changes -

[religioushoax.livejournal.com]

i hope so. it's heartbreaking. people are supposed to be giving kids good, stable homes, but instead they're using them for the tax breaks. i want to beat people.