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9. The Orphan Tales - In the Cities of Coin and Spice, Catherynne M. Valente.
This is a GREAT book to pick up and put down. It's broken into small pieces, intricate tied together, cyclical...linear...twisty. Uniquely Valente. Concrete language describing situations you take for granted...except for here. Take nothing for granted here. Love, devotion, affection, loss...it's all here. Took me far longer than it should have, to be honest. I just enjoyed putting it down and enjoying the mind-bending it gave me. ^^
10. The Connected Child, Karyn B. Purvis, Ph.D., David R. Cross, Ph.D., Wendy Lyons Sunshine.
Off the Recommended Reading list, and with good reason - a very focused, step by step technique for bringing children closer in adoptive situations. It's pretty clear they are speaking of adoptive children from Eastern Europe, Russia and China...but it's stuff that could assist in domestic adoption from foster care just as easily. Concepts I was already familiar with, but with very simple directives...thankfully, already familiar. In short - how to show kids that you're the Real Deal, without having to rely on telling them and hoping they get it.
11. The Post-Adoption Blues, Karen J. Foli, Ph.D., John R. Thompson, MD.
You're not a saint. You're not a baby-stealer. You're an adoptive parent, and the stakes are high. You've had to prove you're a good parent - without every having done it before. And then when you actually get to try it out - you're not the bestest there ever was! WHO KNEW.
Everything from dealing with the anti-adoption folks, to getting the reality check that you are no longer invisible...you, and your adopted child(ren) stick out like sore thumbs and all of the -isms they would be subject to, so now you are - with the additional filip of being a saint, an idiot, a baby-stealer, a bad parent, a thief, too rich for your own good, greedy...and exhausted from being a new parent. Your expectations did not survive first contact with the kid. Everything has changed. You thought you had this all figured out.
Ha. That control you thought you had? Gone.
From the Recommended Reading list. No kidding. I might use this one just to keep my perspective, should I need it.
On the shelf with you!
9. The Orphan Tales - In the Cities of Coin and Spice, Catherynne M. Valente.
This is a GREAT book to pick up and put down. It's broken into small pieces, intricate tied together, cyclical...linear...twisty. Uniquely Valente. Concrete language describing situations you take for granted...except for here. Take nothing for granted here. Love, devotion, affection, loss...it's all here. Took me far longer than it should have, to be honest. I just enjoyed putting it down and enjoying the mind-bending it gave me. ^^
10. The Connected Child, Karyn B. Purvis, Ph.D., David R. Cross, Ph.D., Wendy Lyons Sunshine.
Off the Recommended Reading list, and with good reason - a very focused, step by step technique for bringing children closer in adoptive situations. It's pretty clear they are speaking of adoptive children from Eastern Europe, Russia and China...but it's stuff that could assist in domestic adoption from foster care just as easily. Concepts I was already familiar with, but with very simple directives...thankfully, already familiar. In short - how to show kids that you're the Real Deal, without having to rely on telling them and hoping they get it.
11. The Post-Adoption Blues, Karen J. Foli, Ph.D., John R. Thompson, MD.
You're not a saint. You're not a baby-stealer. You're an adoptive parent, and the stakes are high. You've had to prove you're a good parent - without every having done it before. And then when you actually get to try it out - you're not the bestest there ever was! WHO KNEW.
Everything from dealing with the anti-adoption folks, to getting the reality check that you are no longer invisible...you, and your adopted child(ren) stick out like sore thumbs and all of the -isms they would be subject to, so now you are - with the additional filip of being a saint, an idiot, a baby-stealer, a bad parent, a thief, too rich for your own good, greedy...and exhausted from being a new parent. Your expectations did not survive first contact with the kid. Everything has changed. You thought you had this all figured out.
Ha. That control you thought you had? Gone.
From the Recommended Reading list. No kidding. I might use this one just to keep my perspective, should I need it.
On the shelf with you!
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