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One of the things I love about some people (and I'm being facetious) is how they work like mad to Not Do THAT During The Holidays (IE, Christmas) but have no trouble letting fly at Easter.
No, really. I've got at least two stories of kids coming out to their parents and being tossed out of the house at Easter to show for that.
Looks like I'm going to have to add one more to the list - it looks like my nephew outed his mother.
She's 'pulled the trigger' for a divorce, according to BIL. Nephew posted it on FB after Sis had taken the daughter with her on a 'camping trip in the mountains' - across state lines, if I read it right. Best case, she's going to have a Come-to-Jesus with all of us at some point - worst, it's Spring Break, that's a week to move her and daughter permanently to Arizona. You think I'm joking.
Me? I'm talking with lil' bro as much as I can to try to protect my mother. She adores that BIL my Sis wants to kick to the curb (and it makes no sense, he's as kickworthy as a basket of newborn puppies) - lil' bro is worried. "She won't sleep." he said. Me? Dead. Like in the ER, dead. Just give her a good shove, that's all it would take. This qualifies.
Me? Working like hell to not make it worse on my watch. Checking the angles, verifying my work - how do I put this in a place that makes sense? I need to stop being so angry I can't think.
Because I'm going to need my A game, and right away. Can't fly off the handle, can't quit or hide - but I've been lied to, and all of the 'don't look here' distractions weren't my imagination - the bullshit detector still works.
I knew something Big was up, but I didn't know it was Big and Stupid.
We're talking about a 30 year marriage where whatever Sis wanted, she got. Her husband had to travel and make sacrifices with family time to pay for it all - but she got the education she needed, she didn't have to work full-time when the kids were small and the house is so big she needs weekly help to keep it clean (and she gets it, no questions asked). It's an absolute showplace - just the pictures on the walls are multiple thousands over the years of photography to produce them. The yards look like they belong to a resort hotel, pool and all.
She wanted to stop working and go into private practice. Not long ago, she moved the offices to cheaper digs and that was the last I heard. What are the odds. Bet that business has failed and BIL isn't willing to put any more money into it. I am certain Sis would angrily correct me on getting everything she wanted - nobody gets that, and that's likely more true but - honestly, she's been denied very little.
The worst part is she was claiming the daughter was ill. And yes, if my parents were getting divorced, I might be prepared to threaten suicide - wouldn't you, if it would buy some time?
Lucy has some explaining to do. Perhaps.
Just once. I'd like to be wrong about just how selfish and egocentric...to the point of sociopathology...my sister is.
So. Fired. That goes without saying, right?
No, really. I've got at least two stories of kids coming out to their parents and being tossed out of the house at Easter to show for that.
Looks like I'm going to have to add one more to the list - it looks like my nephew outed his mother.
She's 'pulled the trigger' for a divorce, according to BIL. Nephew posted it on FB after Sis had taken the daughter with her on a 'camping trip in the mountains' - across state lines, if I read it right. Best case, she's going to have a Come-to-Jesus with all of us at some point - worst, it's Spring Break, that's a week to move her and daughter permanently to Arizona. You think I'm joking.
Me? I'm talking with lil' bro as much as I can to try to protect my mother. She adores that BIL my Sis wants to kick to the curb (and it makes no sense, he's as kickworthy as a basket of newborn puppies) - lil' bro is worried. "She won't sleep." he said. Me? Dead. Like in the ER, dead. Just give her a good shove, that's all it would take. This qualifies.
Me? Working like hell to not make it worse on my watch. Checking the angles, verifying my work - how do I put this in a place that makes sense? I need to stop being so angry I can't think.
Because I'm going to need my A game, and right away. Can't fly off the handle, can't quit or hide - but I've been lied to, and all of the 'don't look here' distractions weren't my imagination - the bullshit detector still works.
I knew something Big was up, but I didn't know it was Big and Stupid.
We're talking about a 30 year marriage where whatever Sis wanted, she got. Her husband had to travel and make sacrifices with family time to pay for it all - but she got the education she needed, she didn't have to work full-time when the kids were small and the house is so big she needs weekly help to keep it clean (and she gets it, no questions asked). It's an absolute showplace - just the pictures on the walls are multiple thousands over the years of photography to produce them. The yards look like they belong to a resort hotel, pool and all.
She wanted to stop working and go into private practice. Not long ago, she moved the offices to cheaper digs and that was the last I heard. What are the odds. Bet that business has failed and BIL isn't willing to put any more money into it. I am certain Sis would angrily correct me on getting everything she wanted - nobody gets that, and that's likely more true but - honestly, she's been denied very little.
The worst part is she was claiming the daughter was ill. And yes, if my parents were getting divorced, I might be prepared to threaten suicide - wouldn't you, if it would buy some time?
Lucy has some explaining to do. Perhaps.
Just once. I'd like to be wrong about just how selfish and egocentric...to the point of sociopathology...my sister is.
So. Fired. That goes without saying, right?
