That said -

[kyburg]

Here are two good things I found today.

How To Keep Hostile Jerks From Taking Over Your Online Community. This is the Cory Doctorow I met at the Book Fair - he thought I was fun, I thought he rocked and I have some really good stuff of his to read on the desk at home right now. Boy, it's good when your intuitions are right - and I hope we run into each other again, and I'll pay for the cup of coffee for it to boot. You get a chance, grab it with both hands - he's terrific.

You want to meet a friend somewhere for a chat? Pick two locations, and this site will chose a place equidistant to both of you. Locations default to coffee shops. This officially qualifies as NEAT.

Comments

Re: (pssst, dude)

[dwinghy.livejournal.com]

No, you're an LJ friend of his. Big difference. Also, you're not stalking me.

Re: (pssst, dude)

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Or bad-mouthing you in a public forum. Got it.

(Confirm or deny for me, willya? Did someone put stupid juice in the water supply this week or something?!)

Re: (pssst, KYBURG)

[dudemungus.livejournal.com]

Possibly.

I know Dwinghy well enough to know that there was obviously more between these two than two lone posts. I couldn't say what, But I know Dwinghy. I know this is shocking to some, but entire lives happen off of the interweb. Entire relationships occur and sour, without one word on about it on Live Journal.

Dwinghy wrote me an email to apologize and explain her behavior, and I believe she wrote one to you too. You just responded with an (admittedly) funny line about "stupid Juice", and disregarded her explanation. Without taking sides, I believe DRLAURAC understands the problem well enough. My relationship with DRLAURAC is not Dwinghy's, but I understand the dynamics.I think DWINGHY's response was at worst innapropriate, but understandable given the circumstances of their relationship, and it's long term level of toxicity.

And "stupid juice" is not a very nice thing to say.

And if you ever seriously felt any of this string was innapropriate, you could have deleted any of these comments at any time.

As you may have noticed, I have taken you off my FL. Could you Please do me the same?

Thank you.

Re: (pssst, KYBURG)

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

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Wow. Don't look now, but any stupid juice comments weren't directed at you specifically. At least put some trust in me that if I wanted to direct something cruel and insulting your way, I'd direct it at you, by name.

It's also pretty mindblowing to say something about entire lives happening off LJ, and then get peeved when I don't respond johnny-on-the-spot, or fast enough for comfort. HELLO, WORK FOLLOWED ME HOME LAST NIGHT. I blame the stupid juice. There's been plenty to go around, both here and there.

No, I hadn't noticed. I just got finished composing a reply to dwinghy - I took my time, like Mister Rogers - hope I got it right.

Honestly. If you feel you need to take these steps, take them - I applaud you for it. You're taking care of yourself first, and I'm all good with that. People come, and people go around here - I don't take offense just by being put on and taken off the FL.

There's more to you than this one facet - that's why I put you on the list in the first place. I'm going to ask - nicely - to allow the dust to settle, then look at this again. I still think you're okay.

Me, I'm going to JPL for their Open House. If I don't pull myself away from this thing, I'll never get there and it's only once a year. Hope you understand.

See you in 24 -