Okay -

[kyburg]

Bad to worse. BBC is updating yesterday's story:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/asia-pacific/7144553.stm

"'Fear of bonding'

But Mr Poeteray told the same newspaper: "Our daughter is ill, that's why we had to part ways."

"After our daughter came to our family we found it was hard to make real contact with her... in 2004 Hong Kong medical specialists diagnosed that she suffered from fear of bonding in a severe form," Mr Poetering said.

"Despite what was written in the media we are not trying to get rid of our daughter and have not formally given her up.

"We are Jade's parents and we feel responsible for her well-being."

Okay, now she was adopted at four weeks old, not four months...and that is seriously young for an agency placement.

Agency, step forward. NOW.

You want more on RAD - here.

For someone to say a child in care looks normal (which the Hong Kong MP is claiming) - is entirely possible.

Again...now the information is conflicting, and just enough to make you wonder what's REALLY going on.

Four years, yeah. That would be easier to believe. Four months...four weeks? Not so much.

This really is beginning to STINK.

Comments

[ecstaticlght.livejournal.com]

There is a form of RAD that is attributed solely to the children of foreign adoptions and yes these are kiddos that were infants when adopted. It literally depends on how the baby was cared for in those first critical days..were they left in bed for hours, wet and hungry and not handled at all? Things like that will be huge factors with those babies as they get older. The symptoms do not begin to show themselves until the child becomes social and/or begins school. The thing that would be bad about this case is RAD no matter what form CAN be worked on if the parents are dedicated to helping that child and seeking consistent help. It is a very long hard process (I see foster parents under the weight of working with RAD clients here), but it is by no means completely pointless to work with. Perhaps in the Netherlands the techniques and the back up to work with these children is less available? I can see your frustration..you have been available, would do whatever was necessary to work with any child and these people seem to be giving up too soon. Unfortunately I see that here in the US with children in State custody. The parents really have no idea what they will have to do to maintain an adopted child, no idea. The children come with baggage just like adults do. If people aren't ready for the reality of being an adoptive parent they should not be allowed to adopt when there are those that are fully aware that wait and wait that should be parents and are left hanging.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

I'd find that hard to believe - they have better, more accessible health care there than just about anywhere else in the world.

Something is really, really wrong here - I'm tempted to call my agency and see if they can't get better information through their channels.

[nagasvoice.livejournal.com]

You also can't entirely trust that the news agencies are reporting the details correctly.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Completely would satisfy me.

[kuangning]

I would argue that what they've done to Jade should constitute grounds for losing their two birth children as well. I can't imagine a scenario where I could grow up normal and trusting my parents to love me always when I'd already seen them send my sister to the pound when she (according to the story, anyway) didn't behave the way they wanted.

[drlaurac.livejournal.com]

At the very least it should raise serious questions and trigger some evaluations of parental fitness.

[kyburg.livejournal.com]

Abruption is the one thing nobody talks about. It's close to a death in the family - by accident, or by intent. Divorce is easier to discuss.

Oh, I think there's plenty of questioning going on.

I just want the finger pointing to stop and the explaining to begin. So far, it's been a media circus and not at all helpful to any of the parties involved.